About

About Bev Jo and this blog:

I began this blog as a way to update our entire book, Dykes-Loving-Dykes: Dyke Separatist Politics for Lesbians Only online. Our book was published in Jan. 1990, so this is the 25 year update, completed in Jan. 2015.

I also began writing new articles, which, theoretically, if the money and time were available, would become second and third books. But for now, those articles are here and I will keep adding to them, as well as updating some of them.

I began a second blog with newer and theoretically shorter articles, but there’s so much to say!

https://keepingreallesbianfeminismsimple.wordpress.com/

The masthead is a photo I took of the Puya Berteroana from South America —

Bio:  I’ve been a Lesbian from my earliest memories and am proud to be a Lesbian. Lesbians are my people and my blood. My life’s work has defending Lesbians and our culture and existence against those who oppress us. I’m working-class, ex-catholic, mostly European-descent (with some Native American ancestry), from the poverty class culture of my family.

I’m a Lifelong Lesbian, born near Cincinnati, Ohio in 1950. I became lovers with my first lover in 1968, became part of a Lesbian community in 1970, and became a Dyke Separatist in 1972. I helped create Radical Lesbian Feminist and Separatist community and worked on some of the earliest Lesbian Feminist projects, such as the Lesbian Feminist Conference in Berkeley in 1972 (one of the first in the world), the newspaper “Dykes and Gorgons” in 1973, the women’s bookstore and Lesbian coffeehouse, and taught self defense to women and girls. I’ve been published in journals and anthologies, including “For Lesbians Only,” “Finding the Lesbians,” “Lesbian Friendships,” “Amazones d’Hier, Lesbiennes Aujourd’hui,” “Mehr als das Herz Gebrochen,” the Journal for Lesbian Studies, Lesbian Ethics, Sinister Wisdom, Trivia, and Rain and Thunder.

With Linda Strega and Ruston, I co-wrote our book, “Dykes-Loving-Dykes: Dyke Separatist Politics for Lesbians Only” in 1990. I’ve been disabled since 1981 with ME/CFIDS (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome) or perhaps Lyme disease (who the hell knows) and MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivity.) I love nature and plants and animals — and especially the animals who are feared and hated and killed by people who don’t even know them, just as Lesbians are. I’ve learned to love rats especially, who I do not consider inferior to humans. I’m a spiritual atheist, but I’ve found out that there is definitely life after death because a little rat returned from the dead for three days to comfort us. These hated little animals are so kind and loving, and willing to die for someone they love. In our fight to protect the earth, distrust all “truths” we are taught by patriarchy, including by the “experts.” The true truth is often the opposite.

53 Responses to About

  1. Nicky says:

    You need to see this, because their is a Transgender who is pretending to be intersex and I am challenging their claims of intersex http://schreibtzane.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/intersex-sex-and-gender/

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  2. Bev Jo says:

    I tried to answer there, with this (below), but doubt they’ll print me. You did so well in answering all that crap. I keep seeing the same thing. I don’t know your class background, but I’m working class, and I keep seeing classism being used to shut us up or try to put us down — our politics called “absurd,” being told we need to read more. Typos are nothing. You wrote directly, clearly, and brilliantly, and Zane and his supporters really do not know how to answer you. You must be right because a real intersex person would understand, bond with you, share info, and also be outraged at the appropriation of your identity.

    Have you written elsewhere, to get support?

    This is what I tried to post at that blog:

    Nicky is not being “rude” or “policing.” Rude is the patronizing way that Nicky has been talked down to. It’s also classist.

    Nicky has good reason to question Zane because intersex identity is being regularly appropriated by men similarly to how men are appropriating women’s and Lesbian identity. Nicky’s “issue” is being oppressed for being an intersex person and by anyone appropriating intersex identity. I would think that if you were similarly intersex, you would not insult or try to drive Nicky off, but would ally and deeply understand why Nicky is questioning you.

    This is not just about disagreements. Nicky’s identity is regularly being appropriated, as is mine, as a Lesbian and female. Appropriating someone’s identity is stealing, but also is an attempt to define others out of existence.

    Nicky knows the extent to which this is happening and the harm it is doing. By responding as if Nicky just needs educating, you are ignoring the reality of this harm, and does make it look like Nicky is correct in assuming you are using the issue of intersex.

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    • Nicky says:

      Yeap and every time I challenge a transgender person on their claims of intersex, I get hit with being called a bigot or transphobic for challenging their claims. I think to them that they believe that anyone who challenges them is being a bigot and they think that people don’t have the right to challenge them. Even though they like to think that they have the right to challenge women and intersex people at will.

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  3. Bev Jo says:

    It is so unfair. It’s so typical of the lying and stealing and then turning it all around. They are the bigots for not caring about your life and oppression. I always say, “We’re not phobic — they oppress us!” It’s so insulting. Calling us phobic compares us to those who are afraid of Intersex people and Lesbians. That’s appropriating/stealing again from Feminists who invented that as an idea to describe men like them. It’s all about them and their narcissism.

    I really appreciate your courage and persistence, Nicky. No matter how much they lie, others will see. It’s obvious to anyone who cares.

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  4. Nicky says:

    It’s so unfair that they like to challenge women and intersex people at will and think that women and intersex people don’t have the right to challenge them. I challenged Zane on his so called intersex claim by asking simple questions that only an Intersex person would know and understand. It was very obvious that he wasn’t going to say or he was ducking the issue and instead calling me transphobic for challenging his claims. I knew he is an intersex imposter claiming to be intersex so he can get sympathy for why he’s trans. Zane thinks he can be both and think it’s possible to be both and tries to pass himself off as being both. Zane could not come up with one reason or the other but instead attacked me and bullied me. He even resorted to making a post to spew medical jargon to say why he’s a special snowflake.

    I wonder what would happen if feminist and lesbians found out about Zane and what Zane has done to an intersex person.

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  5. Bev Jo says:

    It would be good for everyone to know. Is there a more public place that you can post about this, like at Gallus’? You’re doing such important work because it is so clear that Zane and his friends had absolutely no way to counter or answer you other than calling you names that are ridiculous and falling back on “we’re whoever we say we are.”

    It doesn’t make sense, like you said, to claim to be both Intersex and transsexual. When they do, it’s a giveaway that they are men trying to con by claiming to be intersex. It’s as transparent as their extreme male-identified feminine look that screams “male!”

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    • Nicky says:

      Yeap and people like Zane need to be called out for lying and con people by pretending to be intersex and pretending to be both. That’s because if people like Zane can lie and con people about being trans and intersex at the same time. Then they are not too far off at trying their luck at women as well.

      It just proves that people like Zane are trying so hard to appropriate, steal and co-opt people’s identity and community. The fact that Zane got caught by an intersex person, just proves how bad they really are and how they are using their male privilege to steal other people’s identity.

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    • Ms. Bev Jo;
      I’m using this method to contact you. My name is Scott Norman Rosenthal.
      I’ve led a dysfunctional life due to neuro-metabolic Hidden/Invisible Disability. I assure you that I’m quite rational. I was exposed to Feminism in the ’70’s.
      I was quite close to a trans couple. They disowned me for standing against the drugging of children and the eroding of Women’s Sports. Also for pointing out the facts about last summer’s looting.
      Many trans are connected with the violent elements that control Antifa. This couple have lied to me for years about many things. There is something frightening going on here in Vermont. I’d like to communicate with you. Among other things, they’ve taken control of Liberty Union Party.
      I’ve found a couple of your articles to be quite lucid and enlightening.
      I believe that people need to know about what is happening here in VT.

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      • Also, better to reach me via direct email: phantomroseexpress@gmail.com.
        Peggy Luhrs, an old feminist, has been targeted here in VT. Her Civil Rights have been violated, etc. An article is in Post Millennial magazine: “Women Silenced in Peace Loving Vermont”.

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        • Bev Jo says:

          Peggy Luhrs is a friend and great Radical Lesbian Feminist Activist. I so agree….

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          • I have some damning emails. A former friend has taken over Liberty Union Party, where Bernie Sanders got his start. It has been turned into a front for violent revolution.
            This individual, Marina Brown with legal spouse Laura Potter, have deceived me for years. They are militant and steeped on “cancel culture”. Tactics are decidedly Bolshevik Party. Note that I speak as a socialist, not a reactionary.

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      • Bev Jo says:

        Hi Scott. I haven’t known about what is going on in Vermont. I had appreciated Antifa for being anti-fascist and saw a documentary where a small group of them confronted and stopped a Klan/Nazi celebration at Stone Mountain. But the trans cult are a problem everywhere and often sado-masochists.

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    • At this point I’m being emailed by someone who identifies as Margaret McPherson, a feminist. The story I’m being told doesn’t add up.

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  6. Bev Jo says:

    I just saw you’re spreading the word at Gallus.’ It’s so important for sympathizers to see this lying and conning. I think it should be easier for them to see the appropriation of Intersex people, and hopefully care more than they do about women and Lesbians. At least in this case, there is medical fact, as opposed to their just saying what they “feel” like. I mean, wouldn’t we all like to be something other than what we are?

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    • Nicky says:

      The more, feminist know about these people, the better because that way, people like Zane would not be able to lie and con to people. When people are wise on to their games and know that they tried to lie and con their way into the intersex community and they will sooner or later try their luck on women and lesbian. People will figure out who people like Zane are all about.

      I think that people like Zane are co-opting and stealing people’s identity, just so they can get the same sympathies that Real Intersex people and Real women get. It just shows that people like Zane was stupid enough to try an lie and con their way pass an intersex person and couldn’t get pass an a Real Biological born intersex person, when confronted and challenged on their claims.

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      • In these times if one isn’t part of a recognized “oppressed” minority then it seems that one’s suffering doesn’t count.

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        • Bev Jo says:

          I disagree vehemently. That’s right wing politics. The most privileged whine the most and get the most attention. Some of the most oppressed are completely erased and called “privileged,” like Lesbians and other women who say no to men and the trans cult.

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          • Did you mean what I said? My point is how arbitrary “identity politics” has become.
            My own neuro-metabolic “Invisible/Hidden Disability” has led to serious abuse and discrimination. Unrecognized.

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          • Bev Jo says:

            Yes, but we have to be so careful since it’s a loaded time with the privileged oppressors claiming oppression (like the “white lives matter” crap). I also am getting abuse over my hidden disabilities and we do deserve justice. But some “identity politics” are real.

            Anyway, I don’t have the health or energy to continue arguing over this all….

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  7. Bev Jo says:

    I really appreciate your confronting them with their lies. I already know one radical Lesbian Feminist who’s fallen for Zoe Brain’s lying about being Intersex. Every con and trick should be exposed.

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    • Nicky says:

      Every transsexual or transgender who lies about being intersex or lies about being a woman, should be exposed as a liar and a con artist. They should be shamed and even make every lesbian, intersex person and women know about these con artist and liars. I have been confronting every transsexual who likes to claim to be intersex and claim womanhood. It’s like they are stealing other people’s identity and community and people need to know what trans people are doing to women and intersex. I’ve been attacked, and called a bigot and transphobic, by trans people and their trans supporters and trans enablers. Just by challenging their claims and exposing their con and lies they spew to people.

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  8. Bev Jo says:

    Thanks for all the info!

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  9. Bev Jo says:

    There’s no reason to leave the Lesbian community because of some theatrical sado-masochists. Many of us have fought sado-masochism for years.

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  10. Jennie says:

    Hello Bev Jo!! Its Jennie, the woman who you have been writing to as an email pal! I forgot your email address. I have been looking everywhere for it, but I decided to contact you here. Please write soon to me, I miss you! I was reading your wonderful blog tonight, and can’t get enough! You are a brilliant writer, and I admire you very much. I’d love to get in touch with you again. Feel free to contact me anytime. The email I used for this message is real. I miss you! Keep kickin ass as only you can! Xoxo. Jennie

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  11. theradicallesbian says:

    Hello Bev Jo! I’m lesbian separatist. I agree and support your writings, and I would like to post chapters from your book in Russian, here on wordpress in my blog. Could I have your permission?

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  12. Mariana says:

    Hey Bev jo! I’m brazillian and I’d like to translate some of your posts and your book to portuguese, is that possible or already exist?
    and there’s an e-mail to talk to you about some questions of your posts?

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  13. All On Fire says:

    Hi Bev,

    I’m trying to write a book criticizing mainstream feminism and in it I defend lesbian feminism and separatism. One of the most important things is to point out how lesbian feminists and separatists exist all over the globe since people say they are only middle class white women. I was wondering if you knew how I could find works written by women outside of the U.S and U.K, or if you could help me get in touch with some lesbian feminists or separatists who wouldn’t mind answering a few questions.

    I don’t just want to make a point, but I really want to learn how women from cultures outside of these countries I know fairly well (U.S and U.K) came to these conclusions within their own countries or cultures. I want to write this for other women who might feel as though separatism isn’t something that women discover in all kinds of circumstances. Women who, like me, aren’t very active on the internet (hence the choice to write a book).

    This lesbian feminist from Japan had a website along time ago, this is actually the only website I could find from someone outside of the U.S, U.K. (Other than one of the authors of your book I have not seen anyone from Australia or New Zealand, and I have not seen anyone from Canada either–and English is the only language I speak at the moment.) https://web.archive.org/web/20040622090123/http://plaza28.mbn.or.jp/~dyke/mo/lesfemi_mo_shiro_eng.html

    If you can help thank you so much, if not that’s okay, I appreciate what you so much. I would like to reference you a lot in my book (very favorably) would that be okay?

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    • Bev Jo says:

      Thank you so much! Yes, definitely you can reference me.

      Your books sounds so important and necessary. I don’t have links that I can think of to Separatists elsewhere, but do have friends and contacts, including Brazil, Austria, Russia, Sweden, Germany, Aotearoa, Australia, Canada. I know there must be some more. I’ll contact you by email.

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  14. Bev Jo says:

    It is SO important to let all women know that Lesbian Separatism is not privileged politics. I have seen the lies for decades and they serve the men who want to keep their women in line and under their control, and they serve the women who don’t want to be questioned about their own privileges and alliances to men. They repeat the ridiculous myth that Separatists live on land, in the country, etc. I’ve probably been a Separatist longer than anyone I know and it’s a maddening lie that erases us.

    It’s Separatist politics that created and fueled all forms of feminism, including our women only spaces to be together, which are so crucial and which benefited even anti-Separatists.

    I think we have no idea what is going on among more oppressed Lesbians. Like how many know that there is an African-descent Lesbian-only organization in the SF Bay Area that has been having events for decades?

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  15. Happy Mary Win says:

    I think it is evil to support evil.
    People who are sexually arouswd by evil are evil. People cannot be good and be sexually aroused bullies and wife beaters. If someone supports evil they are evil.

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  16. a says:

    I have a question I’d like to ask you, when you say ex-het lesbians, do you mean any lesbian who for any reason had sexual contact with a man/men? Do you specifically mean bisexual/heterosexual women that choose to exclusively pursue women? Or do you mean women that came out late in life?

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  17. Bev Jo says:

    By ex-het, we mean Lesbians who chose heterosexuality in the past. Not all Lesbians who came out late have been het, but most were. Women currently choosing to be het or bisexual who are targeting/preying on Lesbians are a whole other issue and oppress us. But most Lesbians have been het and are fully Lesbian now, though there are differences that we explain in our book, particularly in chapters 2 and 3.

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    • a says:

      I’m still confused by this, would “chose heterosexuality” refer to women who have done that to any degree for example? Does this include exclusively homosexual women who tried to be men due to homophobia and pressure, for example? Would it also include women who came out young but had some kind of interactions with men prior? I can’t tell if there is a distinction being made here between women who were at some point attracted to men, and thus acted on that, but now identify as lesbians as opposed to women who were never attracted to men but due to specific circumstances had been with one. Could you refer me to the book where I can see this defined in detail?

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  18. Bev Jo says:

    Our book is almost entirely here: https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com/
    though we also have hard copies. It’s been erased from libraries though.

    Here’s Chapter Two: https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com/2017/09/08/chapter-two-heterosexualityselling-out-is-not-compulsory-2/

    I really hate the term “homosexual women” since we said no to that almost 50 years ago because, like with “gay,” it aligns us with our oppressors, gay men, and we are very different.

    Also, most of the women I know who want to be men are Fem and many are het or bisexual and want sexual access to gay men. They have been under far less pressure than many of us who would never want to become our oppressor, even if it were possible. I think it’s more that they wanted male privilege as opposed to being oppressed as Lesbians. I’ve heard some saying they want “better jobs and more chicks.” But I answer about that in my later articles at my blogs.

    We used “ex-het” to define the vast majority of Lesbians who chose to be with men, regardless of their attraction to males. My concern is more for that Lesbians they harm and what het/male attitudes they bring into our lives and beds. No all, of course, but many bring sado-masochistic and Lesbian-hating attitudes into relationships with Lesbians without even thinking about it.
    Lesbian communities have had workshops in “Unlearning” many issues, like racism and classism, but never “Unlearning Heterosexuality.” So many ex-het Lesbians still get privilege for their past choosing men, which is why so many refer to their past husbands and boyfriends even when it was decades ago.

    Part of the problem with stopping the heterosexism is that ex-het Lesbians both brag and play victim, saying they are more oppressed than the Never-het or Lifelong Lesbians they are oppressing.

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  19. Michal Osier says:

    Thank you, Bev Jo. I’m looking forward to a good long read.

    I’m spending so much time these days just telling younger women that a whole universe of brilliant feminist and lesbian feminist culture existed in their lifetimes; that we, and our foremothers, fought for rights and inclusions that the younger women don’t even know had to *be* fought for (but they’re learning now: abortion/reproductive decision-making, illegal); that, for a time, we laid patriarchy bare, examined it closely, and understood why women’s lives are structured, constrained, and controlled as they are.

    And that all of this work has been overwritten, co-opted, commodified so as to be rendered meaningless, lied about, redefined, and mocked.

    And that this precise process has recurred repeatedly, after every feminist movement, throughout patriarchal history, so that we have to search for it, over and over.

    Many thanks for keeping it alive and present, against the current tidal wave of male dominance, once again.

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  20. Bev Jo says:

    Thank you so much! I’m trying to reach the older women too who just do not know! No excuse in a way because so many like puzzles and mysteries and learning our history is like that, though it shouldn’t be. It is essential to know our history to not condemn us to repeat is. But we do, as you said. It’s calculated to destroy us. So we much continue… xoxo

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