This is an update to previous work at my blog. Part One should fit onto one double-sided leaflet for distributing and sharing. Part Two is an explanation of the brief questions and comments in Part One, with many links to brilliant Gallus Mag’s GenderTrender. Most of the clever comments (in italics) with her posts are hers, and she collected this amazing and horrifying articles with photos, which proves what perhaps words alone cannot.
Please, if You Love Lesbians and Other Females, Think About This….
1. Do you know about the increasing demand to accept men as Lesbians, thereby supporting men in invading our last female only space, driving away women who do not feel safe with them there — women who are perhaps alone and isolated and needing safe women’s community?
2. If you feel angry or upset at being asked this, or unable to think clearly for fear that you are being “transphobic” or “politically incorrect,” can you consider that you are being subjected to cult rules which forbid independent thinking and feeling?
3. Did you know that 80% of the men who claim to be women have had no surgery and are quite capable of raping women, and that the numbers of women raped by these men are increasing?
4. Are you aware that many of these men refer to their “lady penises” or “six inch clitorises?”
5. Did you know that most of these men are obsessed with “Lesbian” porn, made by men, for men?
6. Did you know that 90% of men claiming to be women are “autogynephilic”– meaning they are “aroused” by wearing the exposing clothes, makeup, high heels, etc. that men demand women wear, and many of them masturbate while wearing “women’s” clothing? (Real women do not do this.)
7. Do you know that many of these men demand Lesbians have sex with them and call those of us who refuse “transphobic”? Do you agree with this? If not, and if you are outraged and concerned, do you feel pressured to ignore your reasonable feelings?
8. Since when have Lesbians accused other Lesbians of being “bigots” or “phobic” for daring to say no to men?” Have you considered for a moment — beyond the name-calling and guilt-tripping — that these ARE men who have found a clever way to get access to Lesbians?
9. Do you know that most women who have publicly tried to defend women only space get rape, mutilation, and death threats from these men? Yet we who have tried to protect our Lesbian communities (some of us for more than 40 years) are being asked to pay reparations on behalf of these men, in spite of the fact that they have threatened us and that men make far more money than most Lesbians could ever hope to have.
10. Did you know that many of these men have previously stalked and assaulted women?
11. Do you know that men appropriating female identity are more violent than other men and are changing the statistics on violence by “women?” Why are Lesbians being asked to be outraged on behalf of the violence that men aim at men claiming to be women, ignoring that those same men are threatening and attacking women? Asking women to be especially concerned about male-on-male violence ignores that women are the primary victims of male violence.
12. Have you witnessed any of these men touching, grabbing, making obscene comments or otherwise doing things to Lesbians against our will, yet felt pressured to ignore those assaults?
13. Do you realize that the “transgender” phenomenon has become big business for psychologists, surgeons, drug companies, etc., and that an increasing number of young children who are not happy with being forced into roles that patriarchy demands children obey (whether it’s little girls being forced into dresses and painful shoes, or little boys forced to fit male roles) are being considered “transgender” and started on irrevocable and dangerous hormones and even surgery before puberty?
14. Do you know that “sex change” surgery and hormones do not begin to approximate a female body or mind or spirit? Aren’t women far more than castrated men?
15. Do you know that many of the men claiming to be women also claim to be better women than us, and that they refer to us, and demand we identify ourselves with, yet one more “c” word: “cis?”
16. Do you know that adult men claiming to be women have won the right to expose themselves in school girls’ locker rooms and to play on girls’ sports teams?
17. Do you know that some men who have killed women are demanding that the government pay for their “sex change” and transfer them to women’s prisons?
18. We are told that “transgender” politics are progressive, yet they are in actuality right wing, enforcing gender roles that harm girls and women. In fundamentalist Iran, Lesbians and Gay men are executed, but the government pays for “sex changes.”
19. If you feel that no one has the right to tell someone they cannot be who they feel they are, do you agree with the able-bodied man who claims to be a “trans-paraplegic Lesbian?” (This man’s story is classic “trans” cult, including fondling his disabled aunt’s leg braces as a boy.) He goes to his local Dyke March in a wheelchair with a sign saying “Differently-Abled Dyke,” and makes his wheelchair fall over to get attention. He has no intention of truly becoming paraplegic, just as most “transwomen” have no intention of getting surgery.
20. Does believing that people have the right to identify however they want include white men appropriating the identity of people oppressed by racism? (Some of the completely European-descent men identifying as “transwomen” also say they are “trans-racial,” and have tried to get into positions of power in those communities they oppress, just as they have taken over many Lesbian/women’s organizations, including women’s studies classes.)
21. If you are outraged at the idea of “trans-racial” and “trans-disabled” identity appropriation, why would you accept that this should be done to Lesbians and other women?
22. Would you agree that people who have surgery to resemble cats or reptiles should be accepted as those animals? Trans politics and ideology say that you should.
23. Some women claim that these extremes are rare, mentally ill men who are not at all representative of real “transwomen.” Yet if you read any men posing as women online, you will see how they obviously have no idea what a real Lesbian or woman is. If you ever say no to these men, you will quickly find out how very male they are.
24. Why do the lives of Lesbians count for so little that men can claim to be us and then proceed to re-write our Lesbian history, get into power positions in our beleaguered Lesbian communities, and destroy what little we have left? Why do women feel flattered by or protective of these men instead of being protective of the Lesbians and women they are harming?
25. Do you realize that if you support these men to destroy our last female only spaces, you are simply supporting men against women?
See my blog for links that explain more: https://bevjoradicallesbian.wordpress.com
My previous posts about the trans cult: DEFINING LESBIANS OUT OF EXISTENCE — “TRANSWOMEN” ARE STILL MERELY MEN (And over 80% don’t even have surgery)
Please, if You Love Lesbians and Other Females, Think About This….
Do you agree with small children being diagnosed as “transgender” and started on irreversible “corrective” surgery and hormones, based on the sexist opinions of their parents, doctors, or psychologists? Is the belief of some people that little girls who don’t want to wear dresses and sit primly with their legs together, but would rather play in nature, must be “boys,”’ and that little boys who want to wear dresses and not torture animals must be “girls,” adequate reason to diagnose little children as “transgender,” while making a fortune for the pharmaceutical industry, surgeons, and hospitals, etc.? Meanwhile, the trans cult, which is pushing for the tiniest children to be called “transgender,” are ignoring the struggle of Intersex people to not have Intersex babies and children given surgery, which is what has been going on for decades, sometimes even without their parents’ consent.
I keep being told that the issue of “transgender” or “transsexuality” is “complicated,” but why? How is it? What could be more simple than following your own instinct in knowing that men can’t be women and women can’t be men?
But we are not allowed to say that. Many Lesbians’ thinking has shut down (including “feminists”) — except for wanting to censor me by yelling “transphobic!” They are terrified to think more about this issue and so are self-censoring for fear of being labeled “transphobic” themselves.
How can it be that women daring to think against male rules are therefore being “phobic?”
Why are women being told that men can not only be women, but be Lesbians? If you express the completely reasonable feeling/thought/opinion as most of us did on first hearing this, you are likely to be treated in a very similar way to people who say no to religious propaganda: bullied, shamed, name-called, patronized, lectured…that is, oppressed. Trigger words like “transphobia” are used similarly to words used in religious mind control to shut down thinking. How dare you think, question, wonder? How dare you listen to your own common sense? How dare you say no?
This is why I coined the term “the trans cult,” because it is as much of a cult as any other, except that this one has taken off in Lesbian communities, women’s communities, theoretically “our LGB” communities, Leftist groups, “progressive” groups, mainstream media, etc. It is moving with the speed of religious conversion and invasion, where the plan is to stop all logical thinking. The victims then are trained to act as robots and agents to shame and police other Lesbians and women on behalf of men to continue spreading the cult.
When did saying no to men and male commands become labeled “phobia” or “bigotry” instead of being recognized as women-loving? Men appropriating the identity of Lesbians and of women are using Lesbian Feminist politics and language against us. We’re not afraid of these men – they are oppressing us.
Why are Lesbians’ and women’s minds supposed to shut down when the subject of men claiming to be Lesbians comes up? Why is the response not outrage at the men, rather than at the women who say no to them? Why is it that the feelings of the women and Lesbians affected don’t matter as much as the fear of upsetting men?
This is as much of a mindfuck as any other kind of “reverse discrimination.”
I don’t believe in Santa Claus either, but my refusing to believe that does not get the reaction that I, as a Lesbian, get when I refuse to accept that a man who has sexually harassed me is a now a Lesbian. Why?
We have the right to say no to men oppressing us, yet, when we do, they threaten to rape us, cut off our clitorises, and kill us. (All feminists who blog in support of women only space get these threats.) http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2011/07/01/more-fun-with-death-threats-the-bev-jo-edition/
(Gallus Mag: Finally a response from the Transgender Law Center’s Cecilia Chung after two days of death threats against lesbians and feminists in his twitter timeline. Killing women “is not helpful” at this time, in his estimation.)
Even more proof than death threats that these men are men is their demand that we let them fuck us. Seriously. (If you do not read anything else here, read this: http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2013/03/17/the-cotton-ceiling-this-week/ )
(And a woman’s story of being raped by her male friend who played on her sympathy to trans: http://twentythreetimes.tumblr.com/post/88817045895/the-gender-of-rape)
The worst part though is that these men have succeeded in getting Lesbians to fight other Lesbians and girls and women on their behalf. One of these misogynist men claiming to be a Lesbian actually made a list online of how ugly women’s vulvas were (a Sharpei dog run over by a car is one example), and women joined him in this.
What was your reaction the very first time you heard a man say he was a Lesbian? Women not immersed in the trans cult ideology usually respond as a friend of mine did when she said “A man calling himself a Lesbian is just plain creepy.” And so it is.
To shut down your natural reaction and think otherwise (“But he’s a woman now!”) means accepting dogma that is inherently anti-female. (Yes, there are some Intersex people, but they are a tiny percentage and are in no way related to trans, and many are as angry at being used by the trans agenda as women are.)
How can a man be a Lesbian? Well, “he was born in the wrong body.” “He always felt like a woman.” “He, I mean she, is a woman attracted to women.” And if a Lesbian knew him when he didn’t lie about his past and he sexually harassed or assaulted her and she dares the wrath of other women to tell the truth, who is told to shut up and go away?
If you try to talk to trans cult members, they are likely to start yelling their dogma to terrorize and embarrass you into obedience. Being screamed at causes instinctual fear. Caring women are likely to ignore that they are being abused, and instead be distracted by trying to figure out how they could have so upset another woman. The trans cult agent will usually continue yelling their dogma, trying to publicly humiliate the woman they are bullying, and then literally put their hands over their ears for fear they may hear other ideas other than those allowed by the cult. If online, they simply ban you.
Another aspect is the pleasure that many feel at learning in-group and clique tactics and language, the accompanying sense of superiority towards women who do not yet know the religious/cult terms. Because Radical Lesbian Feminism decades ago was clear and strong in recognizing all the cons that men pretending to be Lesbians played, the present cult members often use ageism to shame women into bowing down to cult rules, as if reality has actually changed.
So now, how dare you not genuflect to these men? After all, they have renamed you a “cis” woman while telling you that they are more real women than you will ever be, as they play out a fetishized caricature of their fantasy of hot womanhood.
The language these men and their women collaborators use is very much based on dominance and submission, with women expected to submit to male supremacy. It’s no coincidence that some of the former Radical Lesbian Feminists, including former Lesbian Separatists, who promoted these men into our last women only spaces, like OLOC (Old Lesbians Organizing for Change), the SF Dyke March, and elsewhere, have a sado-masochist community connection with the trans cult. Of course there is a long history of certain “feminists” and other sado-masochists ignoring consensuality. Some of these women became friends with the trans cult in their dungeons. (This is not a joke. A group of sado-masochists in SF own the “Armory,” which is a city block of multi-million dollar real estate in a city where the average house costs one million. Check the photo of their “Leather community” flag that imitates the US flag with black and blue bruise stripes. In late 2006, The Armory was purchased for $14.5 million by Kink.com, a San Francisco-based internet pornography producer specializing in BDSM pornography…. La Casa de las Madres, a neighboring women’s shelter, announced in late March 2007 that they would be leaving their location as a result.) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/San_Francisco_Armory
If these men claiming to be women truly acted like they were, wouldn’t they at least try to have the compassion of real women and think what it feels like when the rapist caste intrudes on the last female-only space of the raped and assaulted caste – against our will? Wouldn’t they care about women and girls, the people who cannot escape seeing ourselves brutally objectified and raped every moment throughout the media? If they sincerely were questioning “gender,” wouldn’t they meet with each other and call themselves by other names in order to not appropriate and oppress Lesbians, girls, and women more than they already have?
Instead, trans and their allies actually protest (with “blood boiling” anger) a workshop for “Female Survivors of Sexual Abuse,” because such a workshop discriminates against those born male, and a “Day of Remembrance” for fourteen women killed by a man who hates feminists:http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2012/05/30/women-up-north-feminist-conference-protested-no-platformed-for-scheduling-a-female-only-survivor-of-sex-abuse-workshop/
Most of the women who support men in this oppressive fantasy, as well as the men themselves, are European descent. If you believed you were Euro-descent, but suddenly discovered that you were genetically part of an oppressed race and culture, though you appear completely “white,” would you insist/demand that all people address you as a member of that oppressed group, and demand to be let into their most private and protected spaces? Would you insist on becoming their leader and spokesperson in public and media events representing that culture?
By the way, in my own community, spanning ten counties, all the men I’ve seen who are going to our “Lesbian” events are middle to upper class and are European-descent, which means that the Lesbians oppressed by classism and racism are getting a multiple bombardment of oppression.
Men looking like drag queens are just men looking like how men want women to look in patriarchy. We are not talking about reality here, but fantasy. “Femininity” is male-defined, as is “masculinity.” No man pretending to be a Lesbian looks remotely like a Lesbian. Some even pretend to be Butches, which would be even more laughable if they did not have the power to control Lesbian conferences and censor real Lesbians and Butches (like pornographer Tobi Hill-Meyer who posts videos and photos of his erect prick online, referring to it as his “ladypeen.”)
(This one is beyond infuriating as these effeminate men pose and posture, with not even an idea of what a Butch is, other than the women the furthest from what they could ever be — http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2011/12/07/hahahahahahaha/ )
If men can become women, can white men in blackface (not interracial men, but completely, ethnically, culturally, visibly European-descent men) claim to be Indian/Native American or Black or other oppressed races and then insist they not only be allowed into private events and organizations representing those cultures, but be in leadership positions? Of course that would be an outrage, and in fact some of the same men professing to be Lesbians are doing this. http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2011/11/02/autumn-sandeen-and-martin-luther-king-jr/ Some have had surgery and altered their features and hair, but they are still oppressor white men. If the reaction of women/Lesbians/feminist who are anti-racist is outrage, as it should be, but they support men saying they are Lesbians, why the double standard? – except that people oppressed by racism, as bad as their oppression is, are still taken more seriously as a people than Lesbians of any race.
Male surgeons and male pharmaceutical companies cannot begin to approximate female bodies. Women are more than castrated men. No one believes the men who have surgery to look like reptiles or cats are truly those animals, and no one believes that Michael Jackson literally became European-descent as a result of surgery and skin lightening toxic chemicals, so why would anyone believe the medical industry can make women out of men and men out of women?
This entire trans con is outrageous, and if so many women did not participate it would be obvious how ridiculous it is. Basically, trans is a mass delusion, cult, and myth. It is taken seriously only because of male supremacy and female-hating.
Real women do not do what men claiming to be women do, which is be “autogynphilic,” meaning become sexually aroused by dressing the ways that men demand women dress (which has nothing intrinsically to do with women) and masturbate.
How many women are alone in abusive relationships with men who have decided they are Lesbians, being told they are “transphobic” or “homophobic” if they try to get help? More of these stories are surfacing, in spite of the harassment (even while these are added to statistics on “Lesbian domestic abuse):
If men can become women, why can’t a man who has had extensive surgery to look like a reptile or cat be accepted as those animals?
If men can become women, why can’t an able-bodied man truly be the “trans-paraplegic” he claims to be? “Chloe Jennings-White” is a Narcissistic man who loves being on TV and in magazines and has no intention or desire to truly be paraplegic. His rationale is identical to the classic trans cult story, down to the boyhood desire to be like his disabled aunt, including fetishizing her by fondling her leg braces. (This is similar to so many men’s stories, like the “Sex Change Hospital” television series quote where a man says he first felt he was a woman when he was excited as a boy by his mother’s bra. All of us women remember that, don’t we? Bras aren’t even part of a female body, but a sexualized device men demand women to buy and wear.)
The “trans-paraplegic” admits to being jealous of disabled people. He also says he’s a Lesbian and admits going to his local Dyke March with a sign saying “Differently-Abled Dyke” and making his wheelchair fall over to get attention. Sadly for real Lesbians, this scumbag is talked and written about in the media as a woman and often Lesbian.
There is a man pretending to be a woman who chainsawed his legs off — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KvY2ScZBCtQ
What about the man who pretends to be a woman adult baby and wears diapers and sleeps in a crib?
http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2011/07/29/jezebel-headline-female-adult-baby-wears-diapers-247/ Of course, yet another National Geographic television documentary that tells us that this is a woman. Gallus Mag: “And remember, when you hear about a female doing something really wack, or read about it in a newspaper or on a website, and it just “don’t sound right” to you: It’s probably a male transgender.”)
The extreme versions sound ridiculous, but they are just an extension of the trans cult line. No, these are not just mentally ill men any more than any of the trans men are. This is classic trans cult ideology. And if you believe them to be mentally ill, isn’t it kinder and more honest to confront their fantasy than go along with the pretense?
In this era, when women and girls are dying because of being denied decent medical treatment, the trans cult are also demanding and getting narcissistic attention for fantasy health tests on non-existent organs:
(GM: “DENVER — A state-run women’s wellness program now provides breast and cervical cancer screenings for transgender women, announced the Colorado Department of Public Health and Environment Wednesday.” http://kwgn.com/2014/04/02/cdphe-state-womens-wellness-center-now-serving-transgenders/)
If you would say no to some of these men, why not say no to those who want access to Lesbians, to our lives, our bodies, our communities, our last spaces, our organizations?
Who does it serve to make this a complicated issue? — Men, and primarily the MRAs/Men’s Rights Activists. Who most wants to destroy Lesbian community and invade Lesbian space?
Misplaced Sympathy and Pity
Part of the problem is the liberal feminist myth that there is no basic biological difference between females and males. Yet males certainly know that there is and brag about it. Even a christian man who wrote a book about raising boys says it’s not safe to let boys who’ve reached puberty babysit babies and children. Men also clearly know the trans cult is a con, so why don’t women?(from the Little Britain television series: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=INj6HPuKJnk#t=117 )
The biological difference between males and females can be seen in many males of other species who rape and kill babies and females of their species, and who rape other species as well. Human males’ difference goes way beyond socialization because human males’ raping and murdering is often against their own cultures and religions. As bad as some women are, they just do not do what men do. I know of a Lesbian couple who came home to find their male gardener raping their dog. If the difference isn’t clear from experience, just read online the comments following any description or video of an animal or woman being raped, otherwise tortured, and killed, and see how very different that men think and write than women. The way that many men make disgusting jokes about the most horrific things is incredibly revealing in comparison to women’s heartache and concern.
Lesbians are women who choose to love other women. Can we really not tell the difference between women and men? Wouldn’t our lives of oppression and marginalization be so much easier if there truly were no difference? Would Lesbians be disowned, hated, attacked, imprisoned, executed and otherwise murdered if there were no difference?
No amount of being told I am “transphobic” or “bigoted” will ever make me consent to letting a man have sexual access to me. How dare these men do this to Lesbians? Men demanding sexual access to women are het men who are refusing to take no for an answer. That is sexual harassment, and when they continue not accepting no, it is rape.
And in spite of the ego-stroking of these men by many Lesbians and other women who assure them that they really are attractive women, they will never, ever, get what they demand, which is sexual access to a Lesbian. Because a woman who would agree to being sexual with one of these female impersonators is, by definition, no longer a Lesbian. It’s that simple.
And how dare these arrogant and entitled het men take over our Lesbian organizations, re-write our history, be our “spokeswomen/leaders” at Dyke Marches and other spaces, which we created in spite of men like them? These men are destroying our last female only spaces. Yet they would not be able to do this without the help of Lesbians and other women collaborating with them against us. Why are women and Lesbians betraying us to these most male of men?
If you correct a woman with the “Transgender Etiquette” list, you are shaming her, telling her she’s wrong, patronizing her – all for the benefit of men as well as your own sense of superiority. Even if your chastising her is on behalf of a woman pretending to be a man, ultimately, this obsession still benefits men. You are not fighting oppression. You are harming women in order to enable men to harm women. Why?
This is as simple as the issue itself. You cannot both support men demanding to be accepted as Lesbians and support Lesbians and women. It’s like pretending to be against racism, while working with the Nazis and Klan. It’s like pretending to care for the earth, air and water, while supporting Monsanto and the men destroying the earth.
How did this happen, where Lesbians police other women for men to have access to them? I’m sorry, but it really does remind me of those men who kidnap girls to rape and impregnate, yet who have wife/women accomplices to help them in ensnaring girls and imprisoning them. You must have seen these grotesque men in the media, in court, sometimes after having imprisoned a girl in chains for decades, and we have to know that they could never have gotten the girl in the car or to come home if his woman was not there to reassure the girl. Some of them even hold the girls down while their men rape them. (And please do not start telling us how oppressed these collaborators are.)
Of course, we are not imprisoned. We can just walk away alone from the communities we created. We can decide to not plan any more women’s or Lesbian events for our community if we don’t want to have to deal with men showing up. But why should we? The men have the entire rest of patriarchy worshipping them. (And please do not pull out the con about how these men are in danger and being killed and it’s our responsibility somehow. When they themselves are not raping and killing, it is other men attacking them. But far more Lesbians and women are attacked, so why should we make men a priority over their victims?)
For centuries, men have been perving on women and Lesbians. In our remembered history, men have gone into our few spaces, like Lesbian bars, to perv on us and try to rape us when we left. Police would do raids to rape us.
Then, when we created Lesbian Feminism, we finally had our own female only spaces, and, in a few special parts of the world, like the African-descent Lesbian community in the SF Bay Area and in Aotearoa/New Zealand, there have been Lesbian only events.
When the first men perving on us stalked us into our growing Lesbian communities, they got into positions of power, causing divisions and destruction, but still most Lesbians said no to these men.
So what happened? Men are no more able to become women than people can change race or species, but there is a media bombardment with laws changing so that even public women’s restrooms now are allowing men in. The rate of little girls and women being raped will increase, but because these men are now considered women, they are already adding to statistics on women being violent and dangerous.
Some women, usually those already invested in males, are flattered that men say they want to be women. Some mistakenly believe that these men must love women more than most men to identify as us, and have not seen how these men talk about themselves, with their posing and videos and photos of looking like male porn fantasies. http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2014/03/08/translesbians-living-the-porn-life/
Some feel sorry for them, and are impressed that they are giving up the most powerful weapon and status symbol in patriarchy (not realized that 80% of “transwomen” never have surgery), and forget about the girls and women they are harming. And some women just feel more comfortable having men around in previously women’s spaces. It’s a combination of misdirected sympathy and being in the female role of wanting to support and help others. An intrinsic part of that is valuing males more. The poor man, to lower himself to our level, give up so much privilege, and to want to join us as a woman!
Some women are shocked at the level of threats, abuse, and name-calling and are terrified, desperate to placate. Some believe that placating men who refuse to take no for an answer will somehow work. They do not understand the analogy and link with rapists. All men who refuse to take no for an answer are on a continuum with rapists. After all, many of the men who insist they are women have already raped women and girls. If they even remotely respected or cared for girls and women, they would not insist that they are us and invade our spaces.
They forget how obsessed men are with Lesbians as a fetish. “Lesbian” porn for men is the most common male porn, which encourages men to try to get sexual access to Lesbians in any way they can. (In 1972, I became lovers with a Lesbian Separatist who had recently came out with the encouragement of her boyfriend, which I didn’t find out until later. He had been in a men’s group with Robin Morgan’s husband, Kenneth Pitchford, and wanted not just to be with a Lesbian, but with a Lesbian Separatist. After she left him, he tried again to get his next girlfriend to look as much like a Lesbian as possible with. Of course, by definition, no Lesbian will be with a man, which is the ongoing dilemma that men who pretend to be Lesbians have. This man didn’t bother with that game, at least at that time. By now, he could very well be saying he’s a Lesbian and be more accepted in our communities than we are.)
As women, we do not focus our lives on sexuality, and especially male sexuality that is often based on porn, sado-masochism, and fantasies of raping women. How many men are playing with other forms of extreme sexual fetish, such as using asphyxiation for stronger orgasms, even though some famous men have died from that sex game (David Carradine)? Fetish has become mainstream sex for men.
Extensive plastic surgery and mutilation for men is another aspect to sexual fetish, from the men who want to look like animals, to the man who chainsawed his legs off while his wife later confronted him with “what about me and the kids?” to the men who just keep disfiguring their faces, like music stars, Michael Jackson and Pete Burns. http://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2011/05/01/saturday-night-double-feature-6/
Learning the Con
I keep going back to my own experience with men pretending to be women. I remember the first man I knew who decided he wanted to be a Lesbian. I was 17 and it was 1968 and a couple of years before I found feminism of any kind or Lesbian feminists. He had been pressuring me to be het with him and seemed to have no clue what a Lesbian was when I said I was in love with my best friend. He told me about his life, being in a seminary high school, and had never considered himself like a woman. He kept obsessing about Lesbians and was just as repulsive, whether identifying as male or female. He exuded adolescent maleness and prurience, and still does, decades later. He picked a first name as close to mine as he could and dyed his hair a similar color.
By 1970, we weren’t going to the same university any longer and he wasn’t in my life. He just continued being interested in chasing Lesbians and nothing about him seemed any more female, and certainly not Lesbian. I thought of him as a pathetic lonely man and wished him happiness. His not seeming as successfully male as other men somehow made his deciding as an adult that he was a Lesbian made sense only in the context that we could think a nerdy, insensitive, narcissistic, passive-aggressive man was like a woman. But because I was the first Lesbian he fixated on, I felt somehow responsible. I had no idea that he would stalk me into the Lesbian community and I could never escape being forced to be subjected to him. He joined one of the earliest Lesbian organizations (Daughters of Bilitis) and became vice president, causing a split that ended the group. He wrote an article called “Lesbian Sex” that was printed in “off our backs” after he lied to them about being a “womyn-born-womyn.” He also has written publicly racist letters as a “Lesbian” and has harassed African-descent Lesbians with his racist comments. When he was invited in 1973 by Jeanne Cordova to the West Coast Lesbian Conference as a “Lesbian” performer, Robin Morgan, in her keynote speech called him “an opportunist, an infiltrator, and a destroyer — with the mentality of a rapist.” (From Wikipedia.) The last time I had the misfortune to hear him at a women only open mic, a couple of years ago, I was forced to hear his usual bellowing/singing off-key about a woman crawling on the ground, desperate to reach his “kitty cat” (pussy). Yet he is still welcomed at that event.
Yet isn’t this similar to the way many woman are led/tricked into agreeing to obey men as a form of rape? It’s not the direct violent kind of rape — it’s men using guilt and pressure to get a woman to agree to something she does not want. I remember when I was sixteen and visiting a girl I had just met at high school. She took me to a hippie house where a man put his hand on her belly and looked pleadingly at her, so she laid down and let him fuck her, right in front of me. It was cold and horrifying, and all about obeying this disgusting prick. Afterwards, she said how her life would be ruined if she now got pregnant. The man could have cared less.
Women supporting men in their fantasy and insistence of being women are doing a variation of the same thing — laying down for men in order to not hurt their feelings, not daring to say no to them — regardless of how this lie hurts them and other women and girls. It is destructive, self-hating and female-hating. It’s a mass participation in an Emperor’s New Clothes fantasy, with women thinking that it’s more trouble than it’s worth to say no.
But these are not “failed” men. These are very successful men at getting what they want.
Many of the men claiming to be Lesbians do not act on their porn fantasies until getting bored with their families after having full het male privilege. They also do not care what “becoming a woman” will mean to their wives and children. It is always about them. For every one of these men, there is a story of a woman or women and often children horribly affected:
A weak objection that many liberal feminists give to men appropriating our identity is saying that they did not have our experiences growing up – but that is a flimsy argument which does not deal with the few men who have been identifying as Lesbians for decades or who insist they always felt like girls. The truth is simply that these men have never felt like or been girls or women and they never will. Every one of them lies about always feeling like they were girls from childhood. (They don’t even know what that means if you ask them. Their ideas of being women is all about male-defined femininity.)
All you have to do is listen to these men, read them, watch them. It doesn’t take long to see how far from being female they are. Not one has a clue of what it means to be a girl growing up, or a Lesbian, or any other kind of woman as an adult. Their extremely male minds are more male than any other kind of male, because they are in constant rapist mode of refusing to take no for an answer. Their focus is all on themselves and their fantasies of what glory they will get as a woman, imagining an experience no woman has ever lived. Their words and minds are still prurient male. Many of them do not even know enough to stop themselves from grabbing and groping Lesbians in public or making typically obscene male comments. They are male to the core in the worst possible way.
They did not grow up worrying about being sexually harassed and attacked for being girls. (If they did experience sexual assault, it was as a male, knowing they could also rape.) Whatever abuse boys experience is in no way comparable to what girls experience. Boys also do not grow up seeing their own kind obscenely objectified everywhere, being harassed by males constantly, not even being safe in their own families.
Men did not experience the constant humiliation and oppression that girls suffer. They did not experience adult Lesbian or female oppression. They certainly have not experienced having created an oppressed but vibrant culture only to see the oppressor steal it for his own — and then to see the betrayal of Lesbians and women obeying the male rules by calling themselves “cis,” to denote an inferior kind of women to the male “women.” It is still a shock to see how meekly and how obediently even many longtime Radical Lesbian feminists dutifully rename themselves and the rest of us to please these arrogant men. What other oppressed people agrees to taking on an insulting name while not protesting when their oppressor steals their own identity?
If you support these men against women, please know that you are contributing to the new laws which eliminate protection for girls and women in having separate restrooms, girls’ sports locker rooms and teams, etc.
Not Betraying Lesbians and Girls and Other Women for Men
Of all the oppressive forces against Lesbians and women in patriarchy, I believe the trans cult is at the top and is far more dangerous than the rest of the right wing like the Nazis and Klan and christian, muslim, and other religious fanatics, because they want to destroy us from the inside out. They are like the worst form of parasite, who tricks the victim into protecting and fighting for those who are killing them. So we don’t even end up fighting these men directly. We have to first face the women who are standing in front of them, working to destroy all women’s rights, including our right to say no.
It is so hard for Lesbians and other women to say no, especially to men, but it can be done. This reminds me of teaching self defense to women who seemed incapable of allowing themselves to consider hurting a potential attacker. Only when I said that unless they stop the man attacking them, he will continue and will rape and possibly kill other women and girls, did they whole-heartedly fight back. They became impressively ferocious. That is what has to happen for women to not put men first in the trans cult.
Where did the illusion come from that we are part of a movement that included our oppressors? Those who do not know our history are condemned to repeat it. When we are included with those who either directly oppress us (men, including gay men), or those who choose to ally with our oppressors (bisexual women), we may feel like we are less alone as a people, but we are betraying ourselves to benefit those who harm us.
Were we ever asked to be joined as a people with those who despise us unless they are using us? I never agreed to be part of “LGBT” and neither did anyone I know. We were added against our will. Gay men still do drag shows ridiculing Lesbians and other women. Until the AIDS epidemic where gay men put ads in papers asking for Lesbian blood because we have the cleanest blood (“Our boys need blood” was a Bay Times ad), gay men openly despised us, calling us “dirty.” They still do, as a group, and don’t even want us going into their precious neighborhoods, though we have nothing of our own. (The few bars and cafes owned by Lesbians wholeheartedly welcome men, both to work there, even though some sexually harass Lesbians, and as customers). Even though AIDS is simply a preventable STD that some gay men actively seek out (a gay man with AIDS told me he’s horrified how often by gay men ask him to give them AIDS) Lesbians still donate time and money. The AIDS “Lifecycle Ride” made 14.5 million dollars in 2013. There is almost nothing for ill or dying or disabled Lesbians. Lesbians who volunteered with AIDS groups said one gay male director makes $300,000 a year, and they have seen gay men walk off with most of the donations.
What is with all the appropriation and ignoring of consensuality by gay men, bisexual women, and the trans cult?
Once we give the men posing as women the smallest bit of what they want (such as referring to them with female pronouns or calling them “women” in any form), then they have won the battle. This is one of the most important things that we can do for each other and our culture. Please never call a man a “transwoman” or “she” or “her.” Never call a woman a “transman” or “he” or “him.” Refuse to use “transgender” as a term. It is no more real than trans-species. Seriously. This may seem small, but it is essential. If you would not play along with an able-bodied man pretending to be disabled in a wheelchair by waiting on him, do not enable or give what these most dangerous of men demand of us.
If you are tempted to play along to not hurt his feelings, then know that going along with his male fantasy is hurting women so much more. What if all women and Lesbians just said no to them?
Once you give in and submit, and call them women of any kind, we have lost. It’s like opening the door to the rapist and then begging, cajoling, pleading for him to perhaps just beat you and not rape you, or rape you but not kill you. Once that door is open, they have won and can do whatever they like. You can see it now, everywhere.
Also, never accept any of their misogynist, offensive terms for yourself. No sensible woman or Lesbian ever refers to herself or other women as “cis.” It’s immediately identifies someone as a cult member since no woman who has not been indoctrinated into the trans cult would ever use such ridiculous, creepy, and bizarre terms.
And for F2Ts, women who say they are men — again, the surgery does not come close to approximating a male body. Many of these are male-identified feminine women who want sexual access to gay men. They are being self-hating and female-hating. Many have connections with men in the sado-masochist community, as do many of the women supporting men into our last spaces.
Why don’t these women recognize males as a group as the enemies who assault girls and women and animals, and who are destroying the earth? Some say that they don’t want to be raped any more or to become an “old woman.” Some say they want “better paying jobs and more chicks.” Then they discover that gay men don’t want to be with women, even in drag. Some men will fuck anything that moves and don’t mind the “bonus hole” (as gay men call vaginas), but that has to lose its charm eventually. When F2Ts find out that the het women they idolize and idealize want real men and all the status and privilege that het women get from men, many want to come back to Lesbians. Some don’t like how quickly they are turning into what looks like old, balding men with acne, cartoon chipmunk voices, and male facial bone structure. Many of these women are angry and aggrieved and expect and demand that Lesbians will cheer to see them return and welcome them with open arms and no questions asked. Sadly, many do exactly that, since, like most oppressed people, Lesbians often value our oppressors more than ourselves. But some Lesbians and other feminists get a bit sick of the returned pretend men lecturing us and telling us what we did wrong since few will accept responsibility for their own female-hating choices. Those who call themselves feminists play on the liberal myth of women who hate other women as victims needing rescuing.
I’m not saying to not support women who change their minds about joining men in the trans cult, but why should they get more support than the Lesbians and women who never left us?
And Now, the Charming Stories By/About Men Claiming to Be Women
Gallus Mag has compiled an amazing archives of true horror stories at GenderTrender, which every women who supports the trans cult should read. Here are a few of them as well as from other sources. http://gendertrender.wordpress.com
This is from a study in the British medical journal The Lancet.
Transgender fetish is the largest sexual disorder reported in convicted sex offender….Almost 100% of convicted sex offenders have a documented history of transvestism, crossdressing, free-dressing, Autogynephilia, transsexualism – in other words: TRANSGENDER.
60% of convicted sex offenders have transgender fetish as their primary paraphillia (a parapillia is a psychological sex disorder). Of the remaining fetishists, such as pedophiles, rapists, etc., 60% of those sex offenders have transgender fetish as their secondary parapillia, in addition to their primary disorder. Finally, 40% of convicted sex offenders have transgender fetish as their tertiary (3rd) fetish among multiple disorders.
If these are truly women, why would they protest a Day of Remembrance for fourteen women killed by a man who hates feminists?
Vancouver male transgender activists (“Transwomen”) spent today organizing a protest against the scheduled upcoming Day of Remembrance for the fourteen women slaughtered during the horrific 1989 L’Ecole Polytechnique Massacre.
Reed believes that all males can become female if they simply claim to be, and has lobbied for the right to have a state-funded medical procedure to insert a surgical “neo-vagina” near his penis, so that he can have the appearance of having two sets of genitals. Reed and his “transwomen” co-organizers are offended by any feminist or women’s event that addresses the issues that affect women because they feel that such events discriminate against them as males.
Photo of Natalie Reed, the man who organized the protest of the memorial for the women killed by the man who publicly hated feminists:
Another popular image among “transwomen” – what lovely “women” they make, don’t you agree? — http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20140316044801/s4s/images/0/0a/Die-cis-scum.jpg
You are such a “transphobe” if you don’t want to let this man have sexual access to you….
The Cotton Ceiling This Week
March 17, 2013
It’s been a year since I first spotted a small listing for a Planned Parenthood male-only seminar curiously titled “The Cotton Ceiling”. If you’ve never heard of it you can read about it here: https://gendertrender.wordpress.com/tag/the-cotton-ceiling/
A lot of lesbians were sort of shocked by the Cotton Ceiling- a series of closed-to-females seminars designed for transgender males to tackle the “problem” of lesbian refusal to have sex with males. Lesbians were shocked, but not surprised. Dykes had long been aware of the male takeover of lesbian spaces- it’s been going on for years. Every public womon-space, from book groups to dances to music festivals to record companies to bars has witnessed the “transition” of the same creepy straight dudes who imposed themselves and haunted, sentry-like, the corners of our spaces, into “transwomen” who now claimed they “were” lesbians…..
It happened incrementally. First some male would show up in women’s space woefully in his earrings and afghan, speaking in his soft falsetto. Lesbians, like most women socialized to be care-taking and non-confrontational, did not have the heart to kick him out. The air in the room changed with his presence. Women did not talk and joke in their usual relaxed manner. He didn’t know the difference. But the women did. They hoped he would not return. But he always did. Of course he did.
Gradually women’s meetings and groups stopped being advertised. They were moved to private homes. Public dances became private house parties. Women’s bars, record companies, spas, festivals, book stores closed. Lesbian websites were taken over until they were all run by “male lesbians”. Inch by inch, yard by yard, real lesbian culture went underground, private, smaller. Cultural pundits speculated this happened because we were integrating into the larger society where homosexuality was no longer taboo. Integrate! Integrate! Integrate! Who needs womon-space anyway? It will always be there if we want it. But inch by inch, yard by yard, men took over. Until it actually wasn’t there if we wanted it. Until we actually weren’t allowed to have lesbian space: women’s space. Malesprotested lesbian space, often physically.
They tried to shut down Michfest Womyn’s Music Festival by setting up an occupation where men (“male lesbians”) slashed tires, cut water lines, terrorized women by stalking the perimeter with illegal weapons, and blanketed the festival with pictures of their dicks inscribed with the phrase “A hot load from my monstrous tranny-cock embodies womanhood more than the pieces of menstral [sic] art your transphobic cunts could ever hope to create”. Transgender “male lesbians” tried to shut down rape crisis services. They tried to shut down the Take Back The Night marches. Male transgender “lesbians”, ten years ahead of the curve of real women in internet access and organizing, formed attack groups against lesbian and feminist websites and news outlets long before most real women even knew how to get online. They attacked lesbians at Dyke Marches carrying banners stating that homosexuality is “wrong”.
Anti-Lesbian Dyke March protest: “Gender is Greater Than Genitals”: Accept the Male Genitals you dumb dykes!!!
A male transgender named Ida (formerly Daniel) Hammer forced his way onto the organizing committee of NYC Dyke March even though he was partnered with another male. He then proceeded to organize a posse of other men and non-lesbians to surround and threaten lesbian feminists who were targeted for their history of advocating for lesbian gatherings and events without men. Hetero male trans successfully had lesbian films removed from film festivals (before they had even viewed them). They wrote to book publishers calling for censorship of lesbian feminist books that had not yet been published- or written. They joined forces with the same anti-woman“Men’s Rights” groups that Anders Behring Breivik was a member of to shut down feminist seminars. They stalked and harassed any women who performed or attended lesbian or women’s festivals or conferences and tried to get them blacklisted from other venues. They tried to destroy vendors servicing lesbian events. And the rape and death threats. Holy shit. The death threats, the stalking.
My first post here at GenderTrender never even mentioned trans but I had my first death threat from a “male lesbian” within 5 minutes of posting. Any post, any gathering, any group, any seminar, for lesbians or from a lesbian or female perspective will be assaulted immediately by heterosexual males that fancy themselves as “lesbian”. The lesbian community is ground zero for the men’s movement we call transgenderism because the number one goal and priority of the gender movement is the elimination of lesbian voices and culture…..
“Apparently, there are some “trans women” who feel that they are entitled to sex with natural-born women. It make them very angry, frustrated and…well…angry that lesbians don’t want to have sex with them. This is all rooted in their firmly-held belief that — despite their male bodies, male DNA, male genitalia, etc. — they are REAL women and REAL lesbians. Ergo, any natural-born female who is a lesbian OUGHT to want to have sex with them.
These “trans women” look in their mirror and say, “I’m pretty, I’m a woman, I’m a lesbian, I want to have sex with THEM, why oh why won’t they have sex with me?”
If they bother to ask the question out loud (or on-line) to a natural-born female lesbian, she will say (of course) in so many words: “I’m a lesbian. I don’t have sex with men.”
This (of course) holds a HUGE mirror up in the faces of “trans women”. Simply by saying, “I’m a lesbian. I don’t have sex with men.” lesbians are also saying:
1) I don’t buy in to the myth that you are a REAL woman;
2) I don’t buy in to the myth that you are a REAL lesbian;
3) I don’t find your MALE body sexually attractive — at all — because I’m not sexually attracted to men; and
4) My sexual attraction to women is unassailable. There is nothing you can say, nothing you can do, no amount of surgery, make-up, elocution lessons, hormones, shoes, clothes, electrolysis, whatever that will change you into a person I would consider having sex with because…I’m a lesbian and you’re a man.
Men don’t like unassailable women. Unassailable women piss them off.
So. If you Google “the cotton ceiling” you’ll discover that some “trans women” ignited a storm of criticism directed at the Toronto branch of Planned Parenthood by organizing a workshop designed to teach other “trans women” how to “overcome the cotton ceiling” — with “the cotton ceiling” being lesbian panties (how rape-y is that?) — and the workshop (exclusively for males who identify as “trans women” who want to have sex with real women) took place anyway, despite quite a bit of feminist objection and the VERY dim view that psychologically healthy women take of Planned Parenthood enabling workshops to teach men strategies for “overcoming” the sexual preference of lesbians.
The usual level of discourse one expects from “trans women” followed (lying about what really happened, death threats, violent hate-speech against feminists, histrionics about being The Most Oppressed Women On Earth, yada-yada) and here we are.
I recommend that every natural-born woman carefully examine the record of this entire debacle. I think any intelligent reader of the public (on-line) record will be left with little doubt that “trans women” as a group have never been and will never be allies, supporters or appropriate bed-partners for women. Whatever in the heck is wrong with these people (!) they are rendered incapable of seeing the truth:
However much they obsess about women, they will never, ever understand women and they will never, ever BE women.”
We’re all familiar with “The Cotton Ceiling” whereby heterosexual male transgenders advocate for the corrective rape of lesbians who “oppress” them by denying them sexual contact. Transgender cotton ceiling rapists hold male-only (Planned Parenthood sponsored) seminars, writebooks, host lecture tours, and endlessly spam lesbian websites and blogs with rape and murder threats over lack of male “inclusion” in lesbian social gatherings, lesbian organizing, lesbian events, lesbian music festivals, and – most importantly- lesbian bedrooms.
We never see homosexual male transgenders (M2T) hold seminars, write books, and spam rape and murder threats towards straight men who prefer not to have sexual contact with other men.
We never see homosexual female transgenders (F2T) hold seminars, write books, and spam rape and death threats towards straight women who prefer not to have sexual contact with other women.
“Transgender sex disorders are the leading indicator of criminal sexual behavior.”
The title “Fuck You, Kill You, Or Be You” is a quote from this man, who is such a woman. He says, about his doctor husband’s 23-year-old daughter:
“I irrationally hate this girl. I mean, not in the way most women hate other women, like admiring her proportions, wishing they were mine, that kind of thing. It’s almost like, “I fucking hate you because you got the life I always wanted.” It’s not a pass/don’t pass thing. She got the life I always wanted. The princess bedroom. The prom dress.
Seeing her is such a trigger for me. Like I said, my physical transformation is done. I’m usually pretty happy. My life is great. But when I see this girl I get so angry, and it’s a mix of what I said above and these overwhelming desires just to have angry, passionate sex with her.
I love football, but I couldn’t even enjoy the game. When I got home, I cried in the shower for about half an hour.God… The “Do I want to fuck you, kill you or be you?” envyragecrush. Yeah, that’s a thing. Not even just a trans thing, though I think we’ve probably got some special self-loathing twists of our own that we can put on it.
The only cure I know of is getting drunk, listening to Bikini Kill at high volume and dancing around in your underwear.
Reality test: Do you feel sorry for him or scared enough to hope you never meet him?
How many women who are trying to support men posing as women are getting raped?
The Gender of Rape
(obvious trigger warning)
Before I went on testosterone, I (thought I) became good friends with a trans woman. We met through the trans activist group on campus, and we started hanging out outside of the group because we seemed to have so much in common, despite the fact that “she” was about 35 and I was 20. I had been socially transitioning for about a year. “She” had been on estrogen for a few months, or something less than a year I think. We talked about trans issues a lot. “She” validated my pain over my parents disowning me and how it felt to be misgendered all the time and listened to me when I was suicidal. I saw us as having mirrored problems even though I realize now that we were in two very different situations. I trusted “her.”
At some point in the friendship, Z (the MTF) started sending me explicit texts letting me know that “she” was interested in me. I had no idea how to deal with that, so I just deflected “her” advances. I assumed “she” would stop after multiple “no”s, excuses, and a complete lack of interest in anything beyond friendship. I was afraid to be too harsh, because I didn’t want to hurt “her” feelings. I didn’t want to ruin our friendship. I couldn’t risk losing my main source of support, the one person who “understood” my problems and treated me like a man. No one else offered the same level of sympathy for my transsexuality, not even my girlfriend. No one else was willing to drive me an hour to the only other trans meeting in the area, or stay with me when my dysphoria got so painful I thought I needed to die.
I called myself pansexual at the time, because that’s practically mandatory from inside the Gender Fog, and I also had been taught to see Z as nothing other than a woman. I felt guilty for my wary gut feelings about Z’s sex and had to overcompensate by validating “her” identity through trust that wasn’t earned and just giving “her” the benefit of the doubt. Not only did I have to treat “her” as a woman, but I had to navigate the friendship as a man would. There was no room for feeling threatened or listening to my feelings or for risking being transphobic. My subconscious unease about trying to see Z as female was negated by the fact that I thought gender shouldn’t matter and therefore attraction was based on the person, not the genitals. Either way, there was no way to rule Z out of being a potential date without my politics being questioned. If “she” was not at least a potential sexual partner for me, then I was a transmisogynist. Seeing this person as a woman meant not seeing Z as a threat, and even seeing myself as the person in a position of power because I identified as a man.
One night, Z came over after the trans group. My girlfriend was at the library and I was expecting her back sometime soon. Z cornered me multiple times, moving in, trying to kiss me. I kept telling Z that my girlfriend would be back soon and that she would be pissed if Z didn’t back off. I kept washing the dishes, not responding physically, attempting to change the subject. Z kept coming up behind me, putting “her” arms around me, whispering in my ear. I kept trying to move, but Z was much bigger and stronger and I didn’t want to start a physical struggle. I was trying to play calm even though I was very anxious.
At some point I left to go to the bathroom and when I came out Z cornered me further back in the apartment – in the bedroom. I was very uncomfortable, minimally responsive, and I said “no” in every way I could think of, making excuses in-between Z’s creepy advances. Even still, I didn’t want to hurt “her” feelings (cough-female socialization-cough.) Maybe I thought that somehow my identity could still be a shield.
It was all just a game to Z. “She” laughed off my protests. “She” tripped me down onto the mattress on the floor. “She” raped me.
Later, Z wrote an account of the events on “her” blog. Everything was backwards in Z’s version: I, the “man,” was the one making the advances. “She” quoted “her” words as mine. “She” presented “herself” as the passive sexual partner, and me as aggressive and dominant and pushy. Z wrote out the coercive atmosphere as erotica. Even the basic physical logistics were reversed.
The only detail that Z left out of the reversal was the part where the female in the situation fears being pregnant while waiting for her late period for a week.
This was not the only time Z hurt me. I continued to stay “friends” with “her” because I was isolated and I had a lot of needs I couldn’t meet. The mindfuck continued, because I was without language for “her” violence. “She” turned everything inside-out and defined what was real in many ways. When I initially saw Z’s account of the sexual encounter online, I just felt crazy. The violation escalated and went on for months.
For the next couple years, I struggled with this mental knot that could not be straightened out with the politically correct language or ideas. The aftermath was painful and difficult and I tried to find the words for what happened, but I had none within the trans paradigm. I was a “man” and “she” was a “woman.” I kept going around and around, but my brain was just locked in this wordless puzzle. I read online about cis men being “raped” by cis women, but that was not like what Z did to me. I wasn’t able to unravel this or tell anyone what really happened until I started moving out of the trans gender fog.
I have been afraid of saying anything even after finally understanding the reality of being raped by an MTF, because my words and my truth will inevitably be questioned. I wanted to write out part of my experience with this to add to the all-but-non-existent record of MTFs as dangerous men.
I never knew that this was a pattern with MTFs violating FTMs until I started talking to women who had left the trans community. I cannot identify out of rape. I was not a man when I was being fucked by this person using “her” dick as a weapon. I held no power. The trans ideology takes away my only way to portray this situation for what it was: another man hurting a woman. Rape is about power, and men hold power. Gender politics scramble the sexed pattern of violence.
Gender kept me from knowing what I already knew. I was more vulnerable to Z’s assault because defending myself would be twisted around as “male” privilege and transmisogyny, just like being raped was twisted around into being a typical sexually-aggressive “male.”
Gender isn’t some theoretical spectrum. When trans women talk about what it means to feel like a woman, this is what I think of: rape I am not allowed to even speak of. This is what it feels like to be a woman. Being FTM didn’t change the reality of sex-based violence for me, and the MTF who hurt me is no outlier. He is just another rapist.
Olympia WA School Officials: State Gender Identity provision overrides Title IX Equality for Girls Swim Teams
October 7, 2012
Two Washington State high-school Girls Swim Teams were stripped of their Federal Title IX rights by Olympia Washington School officials after the teens and their parents refused to allow the girls to shower with a middle-aged retired military man calling himself Colleen. The man was discovered in the women’s sauna by a high-school teen girls swim team. Parents refused to let their minor girls undress in front of him. As a result, local school officials have forced the girls into a small ancillary locker room space and given use of the women’s locker room to the male….
Francis, a white heterosexual male, compares his right to undress among juvenile girls to the Black Civil Rights Movement:
Colleen Francis is a 45 year old man who retired from the US Army after 20 years as a supply sergeant. Married three times, he has three adult children and two daughters aged 7 and 5. His cross-sex hormones are provided by VA Medical, as well as a cocktail of psychiatric meds, lithium and antabuse prescribed for a troubling history that he details at length on a blog at the “Transgender Lesbian Space”of the puddygirl dating site for women. He says he is known as “Fae Raven” (not to be confused with the UK fetish model of the same name) in the “BDSM Community” and describes himself as:
“I am polyamorous, bisexual (I very much favor women though, and my therapist calls me a lesbian…makes me smile) and kinky.”
He describes his VA funded estrogen treatments as making him “tired and very horny”
The VA also funds his education at Olympia WA Evergreen State College. Francis performed in the university presentation of Eve Ensler’s “The Vagina Monologues”, an experience he describes on his wordpress blog thusly: “ I suddenly find myself in a community of Cunts.”
He lists his life interests as: “drawing, cooking, transgender issues,polyamory, witchcraft, nature, fishing, art, poetry, ocean, women, sex, sexuality, emotions, magic, magick, goddess, reading, erotica, pornography, nudity, crafting, leatherwork, firearms, knives, swords, paganism, wicca, LGBT issues, beauty, gender issues, kink, spirituality, guns, makeup, shoes, boots, corsets, selkies” [sic]
and describes himself as “at once a teen girl and a woman wise beyond her years.”
He says the first thing people notice about him is “I obviously stand out as the one who is not a genetic female.”
Colleen Francis 2012
January 15, 2011
A 51 year old male, medically discharged from the Navy in 2008 “Went over to the female side they kicked me out” has decided to change his legal sex and has applied to live in the only all-girl dorm on the South West Texas Junior College Ulvade campus. John Brigman, now Jennifer Gellar says although he has a home in Ulvade he wants to “experience dorm life” in the only female dorm on campus. Gellar had a harassment complaint filed with police against him last march by one of the female students over an unfinished group project. According to KSAT news: “Now undergoing counseling, Gellar also said she has not lost her temper since the other student “made me blow up a little bit and I started yelling at her.” Police Chief McDonald said Gellar was not charged because she later avoided that student as instructed by police.”
The teenage girls in the dorm are frightened “You have to kind of trust who your roommate is if you want to stay in that dorm, and I really don’t trust her. It’s not even about gender. She’s built like a man so automatically he’s going to be stronger than any of us.” They cited concerns about Gellar arising from the harassment incident with their friend. “I kind of blew up on her on that, but I never did touch her or anything, it was all words” the 51 year old Navy vet responded.
The girls also question why Gellar would want to live in their dorm when he has a home in Ulvade. “Basically so I can experience dorm life”, he stated.
“I’m just wishing that people would accept me for who I am.”
After deliberation, today Gellar was denied housing in the female dorm, and also limited to use of men’s restroom on campus. According to college spokesman Willie Edwards “Due to privacy concerns, we cannot go into the reasons behind this decision.”
Gellar’s response: ““Who said anything about it being over! Because of these girls, I’m now receiving national coverage. KSAT has done two stories on me, Uvalde Leader News has interviewed me and it should be in the Sunday paper, CNN and ABC is about to do a story on me; so who said it’s over! Those girls are making me famous!”
“I also forgot to mention that KTSA will do a live interview with me on Monday at 12:30″
“I do like attention, even if it is negative”
“Remember I’m now getting national exsposure just because of those sweet girls. Now I will become a household name.”
Wasn’t GLAAD supposed to be an organization that supported Lesbians and Gay men? Aren’t Lesbians donating to GLAAD?
GLAAD celebrates a new LGBT hero on their website today: a heterosexual 50 year-old, six-foot-eight, 230 lb man embarking on his women’s junior college basketball career after having his California birth certificate changed to “female” on November 30.
Five days ago Robert Ludwig was just a man with a dream. Since Friday, he has “become female”. Five days ago Robert was a past-his-prime male athlete. Today he is a “female” athlete embarking on a new career.
GLAAD (Gay and LESBIAN Alliance Against Defamation) champions the rights of middle-aged men to compete against 18 year-old female athletes in women’s sports, as long as those men have declared strong internalized beliefs in sex-based stereotypes.
GLAAD strongly supports the rights of 50 year old heterosexual men to live out their fantasies parlaying male musculature into careers in women’s sports thirty years past their prime: but only if those men voluntarily adopt the sex-based stereotypes that are enforced without consent upon females. This is because GLAAD believes such sex-based stereotypes actually make women female. GLAAD does not support title IX rights for female persons, because GLAAD does not believe the female sex exists. Further, GLAAD does not believe in the worldwide reality of sex-based oppression of females, and actively lobbies against the rights of females to organize, meet, and compete based on sex. Instead, GLAAD believes in sex-roles. Blue is for boys, Pink is for girls.
Ludwig goes on in the same article to dismiss a female player’s complaint that it is unfair that he is eligible to compete against her. He states: “They have been in this world 18 measly years. This 18 year old has not the slightest clue what life is about. It’s when they grow up. If that comment came from someone like you [male reporter Eric Prisbell] , that would sting and I would need to find a home for that comment.“
The twice divorced father is an 8 year Navy and Desert Storm veteran now working as a Genetic Systems Engineer at Roche Molecular Diagnostics in Silicon Valley. Robert takes 12 credits of online community college coursework in order to qualify for the team. From the Mission College website: “We have excellent transfer programs and general education courses that will promote your journey to four year institutions and prepare you for higher level learning whether it is the California State System, the University System or a Private University. We also have exemplary signature programs that help to prepare you for the work force in many areas: Nursing, Fire Technology, Hospitality Management, and many others. Mission can provide classes that will catch you up in math, English, ESL or other areas that provide foundational skills to serve you in any future courses.”
GLAAD’s hero Gabrielle/ Robert John Ludwig played men’s college basketball 33 years ago. California Community College Athletic Association’s bylaws limit undergraduate athletes to two years of competition, but Robert’s time spent competing as a man was erased because it applied only to his male athletic career, not his “female” one.
What does the team coach think? From the Silicon Valley Mercury News: “In time,” said Corey Cafferata, her coach, “she will be the most dangerous player in the state.” “I think at 6-foot-8, if she does some work,” Cafferata said, “I don’t see why the WNBA wouldn’t draft her and give her a shot.”
This Week in Men Shitting All Over Women’s Sports
November 2, 2011
Chris Tina Foxx Bruce is a failed bodybuilder, unable to qualify in male competition. He is also the latest crossdressing dude who thinks a brow-shave and some breast implants entitle him to shit all over female athletes by using forty years of testosteroned musculature and male frame to compete against females in, what else? Musculature. The 6 foot 1 inch father of two had to drop 40 pounds of muscle in order to qualify for entry into the Border States Classic Bodybuilding competition on Oct. 29th. I was too lazy to look for pictures, and as far as I could tell with a cursory search, he didn’t place in his first competition. This contest is a low grade physique competition which is more like a “fitness stripper” sort of display. These contests are highly policed for enforced sexualized femininity, which explains his interest. Nonetheless, this is yet another example of failed male middle aged athletes embarking on late-in-life competitive sports careers courtesy of women’s sports.
Contrary to the claims of Genderist advocacy organizations such as the National Center For Lesbian Rights (a former Lesbian advocacy organization now representing heterosexual males), males who take estrogen for a year or two don’t become female. Which is why we see guys like CTFB launching sports careers in middle age by exploiting female athletes. A legacy started by Renee Richards, who started a professional tennis career in his forties in women’s tennis after failing to qualify for men’s competition. (He now says that he was wrong to do so, and he is against transgender males competing in female sports).
July 26, 2012
Unbelievably creepy scary dude Reed Barrow aka Forrest Reed Barrow aka SissyKrystalTG, aka Sissy Krystal aka Sissy Reed Barrow aka SissyKrystalHot aka RedheadTransgenderedFox has been sending out threatening rape messages to women on Tumblr ALL NIGHT LONG.
Here is a small sample of his handiwork:
Barrow, 55, of Whitby Island in Clinton WA describes himself thusly:
“I’ve been Transgendered since 3 years old and this uniqueness I’ve been Blessed with has followed me thru my whole life. Most people aren’t sure what to think of Transgendered people or are scared of us, only because they have never been educated to the third gender ( Transgender ). I’m just like you in every since, except I enjoy dressing and being a female as often as i can, and I’m a complete sissy when I’m dressed.”
Under his real name, posting the same phone number that he uses for his business That Handy Man Guy http://www.thathandymanguy.com/ (who the fuck would let this person into their home!) he describes how he trash picks used tampons and menstrual pads, sticks tampons up his ass, and dumpster-dives for soiled baby diapers whichhethen wears for his twisted erotic satisfaction…..
He posts tons of photos of “the uniqueness he’s been blessed with” wearing pedomorphic female children’s undergarments and clothing and expresses his desire to publicly humiliate himself by adopting the clothing and mannerisms that he imagines young female children might enjoy. He considers himself as something of a minor “transgender celebrity” in the local Everett WA area where he haunts children’s playgrounds seeking attention from horrified young girls. This gives him erections, which he is very proud to discuss at every opportunity, under his real name online, as part of his “transgender rights”.
“..almost every person in the Seattle area knows that I’m a sissy baby and it has even spread to other states. Everyone tells 2 friends etc. etc.
so now every!! place I go people I’ve never met hold there nose when they see me. I never! poop in my diapers and I only pee in them. At first I was very bothered by the pointing and laughing, but as time has gone by I’m glad everyone knows I’m a sissy baby and I now go out in public all the time wearing the cutest sissy dresses you ever saw and I’m always wearing Pampers Cruisers 7t and nursery print plastic pants that you can very clearly see under my very short sissy dresses and petticoats.
No one has ever tried to hurt me yet! but I do get pointed at and laught at everywhere I go ,even in boy mode with no diapers on. And surprisingly very few people call me names, most people just tell me how cute I look and how pretty my dresses are. OK so I personally love the attention now! “
Under his real name, posting the same phone number that he uses for his business That Handy Man Guy http://www.thathandymanguy.com/ (who the fuck would let this person into their home!) he describes how he trash picks used tampons and menstrual pads, sticks tampons up his ass, and dumpster-dives for soiled baby diapers which he then wears for his twisted erotic satisfaction.
A Member of My Family Decided That He Was “Really A Woman”
‘Narcissus’ by Caravaggio 1597-99
A woman’s comment at GenderTrender:
I cannot believe I found this site! I’ve been reading the archives for a day and a half now, practically crying with joy that I’m not the only woman in the world who feels this way.
I’m not actually a radical feminist; I’m kind of not really a feminist at all (nor am I Christian). In fact, it never occurred to me that there was anything radical or “fringe” in, for example, thinking, “How do *you* know what being a woman feels like?” when a man claims he’s “felt like a woman all his life.” I never thought it was somehow radical to look back at my life and be insulted that some man who never dealt with any of the issues or situations in life that I or any/most/all other women dealt with thinks he knows what that was like, or in the idea that a woman is a collection of life experiences, feelings, and thoughts and not some sort of doll that is created out of the air. I was born a female; _growing up_ female made me a woman. When Julie Burchill wrote her column a few years ago I was thrilled, only to see other women–friends, some of whom were feminists, some of whom were lesbians, even–denigrating her. I agreed with every word she said.
I’m going to try to keep this short. I don’t want to drown you in words. But a member of my family–my stepfather-in-law–decided about fifteen years ago that he was “really” a woman. He claimed to have gotten tests that “proved” this. The effect it had on my MIL was devastating, not least because he had for years led her to believe that all of their problems, sexual and otherwise, were HER fault. That she was somehow inadequate as a woman, that she was unexciting, that she was too sensitive, that she just didn’t have the brains and sharp killer instincts of a man. Then he decided to be a “woman,” and fully expected her to stay married to him. He was very angry that she refused; what was wrong with her, that she wasn’t supporting him by remaining his wife and letting him stay in their marital home and teaching him how to apply make-up? Did she think she had a right not to be forced into a lesbian marriage (nothing wrong with lesbian marriage, of course, but it’s not really what most hetero women look for) or something?
All of this was infuriating for my husband and myself, as well as the FIL’s two children–his son moved to another country, he was so devastated by this. My FIL didn’t care. He’d run out and gotten himself hormones and told us how he felt so good all the time, almost high, and it was so amazing–it was less than six months after he made the decision and he’d already had the facial feminization surgery. He also decided that he didn’t feel like waiting the two years for the full reassignment surgery, so went to his elderly mother, convinced her to hand over the money that would be his inheritance (money my MIL was supposed to get an equal share of), and ran off to Prague to become a castrato with boobs. He then changed his name to one of the most stereotypical drag queen names you’ve ever heard (hint: it’s the name of a song mentioned in this thread, with a “St. ___” as the last name) and proceeded to meet up online with a bunch of other unsavory delusionists, with whom he’d go clubbing almost every night in full drag-queen-feminine-caricature regalia.
What’s funny–if by “funny” you mean “disgusting”–is that his behavior hasn’t changed one iota. There is nothing feminine about him, nothing womanly. He mansplains; he interrupts; he corrects; he expects my MIL (they have remained friends, and he goes to her place regularly for dinner) to cook for him and clean up after while he snores on her couch; he thinks everyone admires him. He thinks his mutilation and pseudo-woman persona makes him special and interesting.
(In the last year or two his health has begun to fail, and he at least once told my MIL he regrets the surgery. Well, that’s what happens when you decide indulging a sex fetish is going to fix all the things you don’t like about yourself as a person. It’s called gender reassignment surgery, not create-a-whole-new-person surgery. There’s a reason why a 2011 Swedish study found that 40% of post-op transexuals attempt suicide, and 10% of them succeed. Also, all those studies they like to trot out about the brains of M2T transgenders [did I use the term correctly?] being just like those of real women? Not only is that not completely accurate, but those were cadaver brains, the brains of dead post-op post-hormone transgenders. Who’s to say that years of hormones didn’t create those changes?)
It’s very clear to me and has been for years that this whole “woman trapped in a man’s body” thing is either a fetish or a psychological disorder/problem caused by childhood abuse. And I have more to say on that but this is already way too long, for which I apologize. I’m just so excited to finally be able to say this!
Oh, one last quick thing. Years ago I saw this TV documentary on trans surgery. I was absolutely dumbfounded when the post-op M2T mentions how he won’t know how it all turns out until he “pees out of his new vagina.” (Happens @40 minutes in.)
He’s just had surgery to give him a poor facsimile of ladyparts, and he is so ignorant about them that he thinks women urinate through their vaginas. THIS is how irresponsible and neglectful the doctors who “treat” these people are; they have mutilated his genitals without even once sitting him down with a diagram and showing him what a woman’s vulva actually looks like and what the parts of it do. He wants to be a woman–he claims he *is* a woman “inside”–but has so little curiosity, so little interest in the reality of a woman’s body, that he never bothered to learn for himself, either. It’s not like that information isn’t readily available; he just didn’t care enough, it seems, to take a few minutes to see what those genitals he apparently feels so wrong and sick without actually are. Because yeah, no real woman has any interest in what her genitals do. Roll eyes. Did he think the doctor was just going to fashion his skin into a sexy unicorn?
Anyway. Sorry for the length, and I hope I haven’t offended or upset you or jumped in where I’m not welcome. I’ve enjoyed everything I’ve read here so much. Thank you for letting me comment and for the stand you’re taking here.
Here’s something I wrote when I was asked to speak alongside Sheila Jeffreys, who was speaking about her book “Gender Hurts”, about how transgenderism harms women. In the end, I didn’t say all this, but for those of you who are interested, here it is..
“For the longest of time I told no-one. It is only in the past few years that I have found the words to describe my experience. Thank you, Sheila Jeffreys, and the Radical Feminist community of bloggers for the gift of words.
I used to have an online friend (also a partner of a man who thought he was a woman) who likened the experience of being partnered to a transgender to the frog who is put into the pot of water and the heat gradually turned up till cooked – a deliberate programme of de-sensitisation as each limit is compromised or ignored, and each line in the sand crossed by these men in their “journey”. Another woman once told me that “You give a tranny an inch, he will take a mile”…how true that turned out to be.
When I first met him, he spoke to me about what he called his “strong feminine side”. He confided in me that he was an occasional transvestite and that it had ruined a few relationships where girlfriends had inadvertently “found out”, or had rejected him when he told them. He told me he had a very low sex drive and instead preferred to just cuddle and kiss. That he felt more comfortable around women. He told me that he DIDN’T WANT TO BECOME A WOMAN, that he didn’t know where the urge to “dress” came from, other than a need to express what he felt were his “feminine feelings” and an attraction to pretty things. He told me he had been doing this since he was about 11 or 12….remember that detail.
I felt special that he would confide this in me.
It was only later that I realised that he considered those conversations as “GIRL TALK”. He likes “girl talk”.
I couldn’t really grasp those “feminine feelings” he spoke of, since I had never really experienced my sense of self in that way. I thought women who bought into it were un-informed – certainly none of my friends were like that. I hadn’t worn heels since I was a teenager. I never wore make up. I was a conscientious objector to the femininity game.
But I believed at the time that these guys are living proof that GENDER IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT. Men and women should be able to wear whatever they want, without the silly distinction of ”male clothes” or “female” clothes. To hell with gender norms….I thought it could be “edgy” and “alternative”.
Within a few weeks of him moving in, I realised that this was much, much more than just an occasional bout of self-expression for him. It was obsessive, and it had an ENORMOUS sexual component. Dressing episodes (which were at least three or four times a week) were invariably followed by “sex” (which consisted of me masturbating him by rubbing his tucked penis as he lay on his back squeezing his fake tits). On top of that, I often walked in on him masturbating. The mirror in my bedroom was moved to his side of the bed…
There wasn’t a time when he “dressed” and didn’t get an erection. Even after he started taking internet bought hormones. If anything, the thought that he was chemically transforming himself into “a woman”, held immense erotic charge for him.
He was a textbook autogynophile.
It transpired that he was also a “submissive” – a very common component of this particular paraphilia – and that nothing got him off more than being “forced” to be “a woman”. Of course “woman” meant submissive, passive, always “willing to please”…..He would work this into our “sex life” either overtly or covertly.
After a time, it was impossible to ignore that I was no more than a prop in this game. I could have been anyone really. I didn’t even have to exist. As significant as a gravy stain on the table. Many of the women I spoke to in what limited support groups I could find complained of the same thing. Not just the sex part, but the entire being invisible part, and a deafness to *OUR* needs, views, or opinions.
I discovered that he was an obsessive user of porn, particularly “shemale” porn, and BDSM fare. I had been very clear with him about my opinions on porn, and was sickened when he tried to get me to participate in looking at these men.
Time and again he would promise to stop, only to be discovered again. He would swing between crying and begging forgiveness and bold-facedly challenging me, saying it was ME that had a problem, that no-body else thought like me, ridiculing my objections and my politics, or telling me that I was paranoid, – even though the evidence was staring me right in the face.
He had no intention of stopping. A lot of his behaviours seemed compulsive, obsessive.
I discovered that he was using dating and sexual hook-up sites, saying that he was a full-time transsexual, going through the Real Life Test, willing to relocate anywhere for the right lady (of any gender – wink, wink). There was no end to his inventiveness when it came to lying about who he really is.
Using his smartphone, he created an online world for himself by inventing a fictitious life. I discovered that he had a secret Facebook profile, and scores of photographs of himself in varying degrees of undress– I am convinced that trannies invented that selfie – and that he had a coterie of dozens and dozens of young women between the ages of 17 and 24 who believed that he was a full-time transsexual, single, and struggling with finding a job in this cruel discriminatory society. He had a fictitious home life, fictitious job or non-job, a fictitious social life and fictitious friends. He even fabricated a “trans bashing” – this, I found particularly repulsive.
He loved sympathy and attention, and “validation” – even if it meant lying and manipulating to get it. The young women were so “Go girl!” and “Awww poor you”, toward him. Some of them called him “big sis” and took their problems to him. Otherwise it was giggly conversations about clothes and what colour to die their hair that week, musings about becoming a stripper or a fetish model, and complaining about getting “slut shamed”.
Oh yes, he liked his women faux feminist to match his faux existence.
I was outraged that he would be so bold-facedly lie to these young women and demanded that he STOP. He cried, saying , “But these are my frieeeends…”. Ignoring the fact who THEY thought was their friend is A WORK OF FICTION.
Then again, it’s not as if women are actually *real* to these men.
Of course he didn’t stop. It carried on as if I hadn’t said anything. Even the several times I asked him to leave were ignored.
He would just get up the next day as if nothing had been said.
I felt I was being driven insane.
My sense of self, and my belief that I was entitled to set limits or boundaries was gradually eroded as the TRANS STUFF came to dominate and shape every corner of my life. I never knew where or when the next assault to my psyche was going to come, and so I existed for a long time in a state of hyper vigilance. That is, until such time as my ability to dissociate kicked in.
I know from observing trans support groups that many of these men say, “My wife is fine with it – she just doesn’t want to talk about it or see it”.
Many women are surviving through disassociation.
Let’s not forget that a well-orchestrated and financed propaganda machine surrounds these men. It has the effect of silencing not just those of us who oppose on ideological principles, but all women who are within these relationships who question the idea that these men are ” women trapped inside men’s bodies “, or who’s lives have been ripped apart by these men.
I know from bitter experience of reaching out, that the primary concern is for the welfare of the trans partner, who must never be questioned as the most oppressed creature to walk this planet.
This is a double whammy to those women experiencing abuse, intensive gaslighting, and erasure of their right to name their reality and to set boundaries. Thee is no such thing as a line in the sand when it comes to trans desire. He gota have what he gotta have.
Even within mainstream services, support for female partners is tempered by the need to be sensitive to the needs of the transgender partner, and to avoid being seen as discriminatory. My doctor was happy to give me anti-depressants, but les happy to countenance the idea that what I was being put through was abuse.
Increasingly, statistics on DV within same sex partnerships count the trans partner as “female”. There is an invisiblising of male violence within these relationships, and women are suffering as a consequence. We are silenced. We are shamed. We are ereased.
A Scottish Government funded survey carried out by the Scottish Transgender Alliance (funded by the Scottish Government since 2007), is often cited as evidence of how very bad it is for trans women, who would appear to experience rates of abuse higher than actual women. Apparently a small, self-selecting sample is no barrier to credibility, nor is the fact that one of the crireria for abuse included “misgendering”. It is of no surprise to me that some women (partnered to a man for some years) might slip up occasionally and forget to call their Steven “Stephanie”, yet this is a heineous act of abuse – apparently. Yet there are no surveys I am aware of, of abuse perpetrated *by* trans “women in relationships. I find this a telling omission.
It often feels like no one want’s to hear the woman’s story.
For example, at one point (as a means to at least get him to LISTEN to my distress) I begged him to seek relationship counselling with me. Apart from the fact that he used the trips to the counsellor as an exciting opportunity to dress in public, and spent more time stressing about what to wear (sometimes even buying entire new outfits), than any time in self-reflection, the counsellor spent an inordinate amount of time focusing on MY inability to “accept” rather than on HIS behaviour .
In one session she grasped on to an incident of “misgendering” that had happened in her presence (I had said something like “Why can’t he understand?”). He had fled from the room in a dramatic tizzy of tears. She stated to me in a firm voice that she is prohibited from working with couples where there is domestic abuse. In other words, I was being accused of being an abuser. This almost drove me mad with pain and self-doubt …what if it really is me? Am *I* an abuser?
I can’t begin to describe the pain this caused me. I carried that comment with me for months.
I refused to go back. He was disappointed that his daylight trips outdoors with his repulsive “cleavage” showing were curtailed. However it did give him an excuse to now appropriate the identity of “abused woman”. Sickening.
I was started to drop or loose female friends. I would be hesitant about going out with them or inviting them over: particularly with him around. He would laugh and giggle with them and I knew that in his head he was imagining he was having “GIRL TALK” with them, and the fact that *they didn’t know* that they were unwittingly playing a part in his fantasy life made me feel nauseous, and guilty, so I stopped meeting female friends with him around.
Then I pretty much stopped seeing female friends at all, since when I tried to go anywhere without him, (telling him that it was “women friends only ”), he would pout and huff and often cry, “It’s because I have a penis, isn’t it?”. When I was away from him he would text and phone me constantly. When I got in he was nasty to me.
I was growing afraid of him.
It was easier just to forget about having friends.
So my world became smaller and smaller as his “exploration of his feminine side” took up more and more space until there was little room left for anything else. It dominated every conversation and extended to physical space too. By the time he left, my clothes storage was down to half a drawer and a box under the window.
Even everyday purchases were fraught with meaning and reminders of my erasure. I remember having an argument in Superdrug over toothbrushes. There was only one pink toothbrush left, and I don’t know what came over me but I decided that fuck him, I am having the pink toothbrush. He “helpfully” pointed out the purple ones, and the blue ones that matched the bathroom. But no. I was having the pink one and I was going to win this tiny victory even if all the shop assistants were looking at me like I had lost my marbles.
We needed a phone. He said he would take care of it. That he had seen just what we needed. He came home with this….
I couldn’t bear to bring it up to my ear. My flesh crawled very time it rang.
I thought that perhaps if he had an outlet, the lies and stuff would stop. Lots of partners go through a similar “bargaining” phase. The gas under my pot was turned up to full.
So I agreed to escort him to a tranny club.
I secretly wanted to see if there would be other women there. I needed to find out if this behaviour is *normal* for trannies, and if there is anything that women had found that made their lives with these men more bearable.
He would be beside himself with excitement at going out “en-femme”. I could see his hard on starting from the moment he got out of his leisurely bubble bath (my bath’s were always rushed and fitted in around his dressing schedule). Getting ready was a ritual that took at least two hours. Of course, I was expected to “help”. I’m pretty sure now that he was working that into one of his fantasies he had running on loop in his head.
Often trips were abandoned due to some smudged nail polish, or similar “feminine disaster” that would have him stomping around in an agitated state sweating through his make-up, crying and shouting at me. Ordering me around like some demented potentate. Six foot trannies with chipped nail polish can be pretty scary, believe me.
The tranny club comprised of men, in very short, very tight “little black dresses” (had they co-ordinated this? I thought), high heels, a variety of wigs (probably two third of them, long and blonde) and a weird atmosphere I couldn’t quite put my finger on. There were other men there too (not in dresses). They sort of lurked, and leered, most of them not actually talking to the men in dresses, but often sending a drink over for one of them, followed by a raised glass and a wink from their corner – the men in dresses responding with a coquettish smile and a simpered “Thank you”. I found out later that most of the men in dresses were doing each other and calling themselves “lesbians”. I know this, because I found the photographs.
And they had a certain gleam I their eye…
Amy Bloom, in her article from 2002, Conservative Men in Conservative Dresses, wrote :
“The greatest difficulty people have with cross-dressers, I think, is that cross-dressers wear their fetish, and the gleam in their eyes, however muted by time or habit, the unmistakable presence of a lust being satisfied or a desire being fulfilled in that moment, in your presence, even by your presence, is unnerving.”
The penny finally dropped for me about what I was witnessing…
Another boundary being violated – the boundary that says “Don’t make me a part of you sexual kick, buddy”.
The experience of getting out in public seemed to turbo charge the tranny-ing at home.
Give an inch, take a mile.
When the kids weren’t around, his idea of relaxing at home was to potter about in a micro-mini and high heels, affecting a “sexy wiggle” and doing this weird thing with his hands and wrists when he spoke. I told him that women don’t go about dressed like they were about to nip down to a disco *all the time*.
He told me that he had seen “loads” of women that do, and that anyway, he liked the “council house tart” look.
I was always arguing with him about what women *actually* wore, and how sexist his stereotypes of women were, but he would insist that he was dressing like any other “girl” (despite the fact that he is a 47 year old man).
Other looks he liked were –
The “rock chic” look – think Cher in that video on the aircraft carrier. No jeans and band T shirt for this gal!
The “hooker” look – I’ll leave that to your imagination.
The “beauty counter girl” – Extra heavy make-up and an old lab coat worn over a bra, pants, suspender-belt and stockings ensemble. I caught him once, sneaking back into the house like that at 5 in the morning after a “constitutional”. Apparently he had been taking “constitutionals” for months , sneaking out while I was asleep. Trannies are expert ninjas as well as exhibitionists.
For all his faux “girly-ness”, the feminine side never extended to practical, everyday stuff that most adults have to do to get by – like helping with housework. He literally told me “I can’t do housework because I might break a nail – my long nails are important to me”.
Turned out he couldn’t carry heavy bags or lift heavy stuff either, cos he wanted his upper body muscles to wither away so he would be “more like a girl”. I told him lots of women have muscles. He told me that wasn’t “the kind of woman” he wanted to be. Of course not – how nice it must be to get to pick and choose.
He spent thousands and thousands of pounds on clothes, make-up, “beauty products”, laser hair removal and internet hormones. I still can’t see a television ad for make-up without an involuntary shiver down my spine.
He would go months without giving me any contribution to the home. Apparently he had “expenses”, and anyway, I wouldn’t have sex with him, so why should he?
The day came when he told me that he had “done an online test” and that he was “definitely a transsexual”. Self-diagnosis by internet is the tranny stock in trade. I was alarmed because I knew to the core of myself that these men are categorically not women. That I could never accept him as a woman. Like Sheila Jeffreys says, “woman is an honourific term”.
His story began to change in subtle ways – aided by his community of internet advisors. Now he said he had been dressing since three years old. He now had distinct memories of wishing he was a girl from around the age of five.
Many hundreds of pounds in laser hair removal and black market internet hormones later, and I was left struggling with a six foot, 14 stone hulking man with “breasts” , liable to incandescent rages one minute and tears the next. I was terrified. I began to hate him. No way was I going to wipe his arse if he had a stroke.
I was repulsed by him, his insulting attempts to emulate “femininity” and his freakish body. Being touched by him, even by accident, made my skin crawl.
I was disgusted at myself for allowing this to happen to me. I was drowning in shame. I was sinking fast.
I tried finding help online, but nobody wanted to acknowledge that these delusions are harmful. Rather, I was told * I* had to be educated, that *I* was “phobic”, that I should learn to embrace this. Women were telling me this as well as the trans borg.
Had feminism changed so much? What had happened to the idea of women being central to feminism? Why can’t women see that these are men???
I was told that I was “homophobic” AS WELL AS “transphobic” because I refused to call myself a lesbian. WHAT?? He is a man!! What madness was this???
I went to the doctor and was given anti-depressants. Nobody wanted to hear about my problem with the trans. I was told that “she” must be suffering too.
I went to the LGBT centre and asked if they had a group for partners of transitioning males. The young man looked at me, puzzled, “Um, well we have a group for trans women and their friends and families…isn’t that enough?” he asked. I tried to explain why maybe it wasn’t a good idea for women who were struggling in their relationship with a male partner who was insisting he was now a woman for those women to be discussing their problems with their male partner in* the* same* fuckin* room*…..crickets. Eventually he said he would ask the tranny group what they thought. If they were OK with it, then they would “think about it”. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out their response…. More men telling women what they can and cannot do.
Women are often reluctant to talk about this. Whether from a sense of shame or embarrassment, or because we have seen the harassment and invasion that takes place against women who have spoken out publicly. Most commonly though, because we are GROOMED AND OBLIGATED TO CARE.
One of the saddest things for me, was that when I contacted the few women who I had met along the way (and who I knew to have been put through a variety of torments) to ask them if they would consent to an interview for Gender Hurts, they declined, stating that they didn’t want to be “disloyal”, or for [him] to find out that they had been talking to anyone outside of a tightly proscribed circle. Some didn’t want to risk being ejected from some of the only spaces they have to talk about this – compromised by male oversight though they may be.
It gets to be exhausting, pointless and depressing.
I know that for many, the greatest state of emergency will be what seems to be the almost unstoppable trend of lesbian women who are “transitioning”, and destroying their beautiful, healthy female bodies in the process – as well as erasing their lesbian herstory and identity.
I feel a deep sorrow for this state of affairs, and when I have read descriptions of what women put their bodies through, and the details of the surgeries that some go on to seek, my heart sinks at how self-hating, how female hating this is. It is misogyny written upon the bodies of women, and it is truly terrible.
The trend for “transgender children” is particularly horrifying and is evidence of how damaging the essentialist idea of “gender” that is promulgated by the Transgender cult is.
In speaking about my own experience, I hope that you understand that I don’t wish to minimise those states of emergency, and hope that what I have said will be taken in the context of how male privilege and entitlement in the guise of transgenderism, is driving a movement that has, and will continue to hurt all women as long as our voices are silent, and women remain unsupported to escape from these men, and to make sense of their oppression.
I believe that what women go through in these relationships is a form of emotional violence, and that work needs to be done to raise awareness among not just the wider public about what really goes on within many of these relationships, but also services that support survivors of male violence.
This is not “woman on woman” relationship abuse, and should not be treated or recorded as such. We should not be afraid to see this for what it is – male entitlement. Male violence.
No woman who is being abused needs to be told to have compassion for her abuser.
Women’s enforced compliance with male delusions, needs to recognised for what it is.
I’m standing up and saying ENOUGH. “
Jezebel Headline: “Female Adult Baby Wears Diapers 24/7″ — Except that once again, this is not a woman, but a particularly repulsive and annoying 25 year-old-man…. Why do these men, like the “trans-paraplegic” keep being called “women” or “female?”
Betrayed by the National Center for Lesbians Rights:
Lesbians Are WOMEN !
January 5, 2011
Some of us have been murmuring for some time about how skewed the priorities of some organizations claiming to represent LESBIAN WOMEN have become….
Is THAT a picture of a lesbian?
THAT is a picture of a mass murderer. His name is Richard Speck. He murdered eight nurses. In prison he claimed he had turned transgender and was “actually” a female. He wanted a “sex change”.
How high on a list of LESBIAN Priorities should Richard Speck’s desire for a taxpayer funded sex change be? How important is it to YOU, as a LESBIAN, that this mass murderer gets a free sex change? Would you donate funds to help him do so? Would you want a major LESBIAN organization to make his desires a PRIORITY? Would you want an organization to do so while claiming to represent LESBIANS?
Well, the National Center for Lesbian Rights (NCLR) has made it a priority. A LESBIAN priority that criminals like Speck have a CIVIL RIGHT to taxpayer funded gender reassignment, even if they have NEVER expressed a transgender urge prior to their incarceration. And this is a priority for a Lesbian WOMEN’s organization WHY exactly? What ARE the priorities of the National Center for Lesbian Rights?
Here is a list of all active pending cases on the NCLR case docket posted on their website, as I understand them:
-an amicus brief submitted in a lesbian case challenging Florida’s ban on adoption by lesbians and gays. (The case was represented by pro-bono attorneys, not NCLR, so here the NCLR submitted a brief in a case relating to an actual lesbian, not a case they represented however.)
-Lawsuit filed to force prisons to provide incarcerated trans criminals taxpayer funded hormones and surgery. Free sex changes for incarcerated transgender people who “come out” after incarceration. As wards of the state, convicted criminals should be entitled to taxpayer funded hormones and surgeries that are not provided for law abiding citizens.
-Lawsuit filed claiming heterosexuals are being discriminated against, by being excluded from gay men’s softball leagues. Seriously. This is who the NCLR is representing. Can’t make this shit up.
-amicus brief filed in case of Egyptian gay man seeking asylum from anti-gay mistreatment in a country where gay men can be arrested for homosexuality.
-asylum case for Mexican transgender identified person who received alleged harassment because of claiming to be a sex incongruent with that on birth certificate.
-asylum case for gay Pakistani male.
-amicus brief filed in case of Pakistani hetero male who alleges he was detained by the FBI due to religious profiling of muslims in terrorism investigations.
-assisting a pro bono attorney who is representing an asylum case for Bosnian lesbian.
-lawsuit against Cherokee Nation representing lesbian married couple.
-asylum for another Mexican transgender person.
That’s it. As I understand it those are the open pending cases represented by the NCLR.
Well what else do they do?
NCLR Sports Project issued a report in 2010 warning that women’s sports teams discriminate against males and that failure to permit males to compete against females in female sports may result in “costly litigation”. The NCLR press report was issued in October when a 57 year-old male who beat out all the female competitors (average age 30) to win the women’s world championship for long-drive golf sued the LPGA for his “right” to compete against women. The NCLR supported this action and does so by misrepresenting themselves as being a lesbian WOMEN organization. The NCLR appears to believe that women’s sports leagues infringe on the CIVIL RIGHTS of males. The 57 year-old male may be the first competitor in history to embark on a new professional sports career at such an advanced age.
It’s hard to IMAGINE that a lesbian rights organization would make the rights of males to play women’s sports their highest priority, much less the “rights” of male criminals to receive taxpayer funded sex changes, or the “rights” of heterosexuals to play on gay softball leagues, but this is what the NCLR is concerned with. Only three of the ten active pending lawsuits listed on the NCLR website concern lesbians, and two of them are not actually being represented by the NCLR. So, one out of ten. Three transgender cases (two male one female), two gay male, two hetero male.
It’s time for the National Center for “Lesbian” Rights to change their name to better reflect their priorities. “National Center for MALE Rights”? “National Center for Queer Rights” perhaps?
After all, the ex-lesbian legal director of NCLR has stated “…there is a community of lesbians and transmen who are just kind of merging into one social group…”. NCLR seems to believe that the concerns and priorities of lesbians (who are women) are indistinct from the concerns and priorities of men (the legal director considers herself a man, so that may explain her male-centrism and misogyny). Like many transgender persons the legal director seems to believe that all discrimination against gays and lesbians is due to their perceived gender-nonconformity, and therefore the concerns of the LGB can be subsumed, borg-like, by the transgender political movement. What such a philosophy fails to take into account is that……wait for it…..Lesbians are WOMEN. Fancy that! Political objectives and legal priorities for WOMEN are entirely different- and often at odds with- those of MEN. Go figure! Who’d a thunk it???
So if anyone wrote out a year-end donation to the NCLR- quick put a stop payment on it. Don’t support an organization that colonizes lesbians and takes our money and works for the “rights” of Richard Speck, and straight men, and males who want to start professional sports careers at the age of 57 in women’s leagues.
And don’t buy the women’s underwear that NCLR sells to raise funds.
And tell ALLLLL your friends and neighbors how the NCLR does NOT represent your LESBIAN interests.
Increasing Numbers of Murders and Assaults Attributed to Women Actually Committed By Men Claiming to be Women —
Then these men want taxpayers to pay for their “sex changes” and be transferred to women’s prisons.
Why Court Ordered Sex-Changes for Prisoners are Bad for Women –– September 6, 2012
Robert Kosilek, Wire Killer, Life Without Parole
David E. Megarry Jr. raped female children. He raped lots of them. He started in his teens. He liked to torture them. He was locked up as a teen for multiple violent torture rapes of female children. But he got out. When he was 21 he was apprehended for abducting a ten year old girl, forcing her into his car, abducting and driving her into the woods known as Lombardi’s Grove in Milford, Mass. where he tied her up, gagged her, raped her, and left her for dead. Behind bars for child rape he got 64 infractions on his disciplinary record. He was caught making obscene phone calls to children from prison. He was found hoarding pictures of female children in his cell. At this time he decided he was transgendered. He got extensive prison tats of naked women and began wearing smuggled “female” undergarments. He started calling himself Sandy Jo: Sandy Jo Battista. In 1995 he had his name legally changed to Sandy Jo Battista from his cell at the all male Massachusetts Treatment Center for Sexually Dangerous Persons facility where he lives under civil commitment without limit of sentence due to his legal status as a “Sexually Dangerous Person”.
In 2005 “Sandy Jo”, filed suit against the Massachusetts Department of Corrections asserting his “right” for cross-sex hormones that would allow him to grow breasts. Global business law firm McDermott Will and Emory, who represent 50% of global business interests worldwide, decided to devote their required pro-bono hours to him. They brought all their power and interests to bear and devoted years and thousands of hours to representing his interest in medically acquiring superficial female sex characteristics. Last year he won his case which created precedence for the rights of male predators to access feminizing medical treatments funded by taxpayers while serving time.
Strangulation murderer and fellow Massachusetts inmate Robert Kosilek, serving life sentence without possibility of parole, paid close attention to this ruling. Kosilek had been filing multiple cases against the Department of Corrections for over a decade. Since he first murdered his wife. He did not enjoy the prison experience, and with no possibility of parole, filing lawsuits was his passion.
Kosilek in various cases over the last twelve years of his incarceration won access to cross-sex cosmetic medical hormone treatment, the right to wear clothing now legally regarded and classified by federal court as appropriately sex-role stereotypical for females, make-up/face paint now regarded and classified by federal court as female appropriate, electrolysis hair removal, and annual mammograms for the breasts created by his feminizing hormone regime. He has not yet filed cases for breast implants or facial feminization surgery. In 2005 he filed a case claiming that withholding taxpayer funded feminizing cosmetic surgery violated his Eighth Amendment right of protection from cruel and unusual punishment.
Yesterday a federal judge, U.S. District Court Chief Judge Mark Wolf agreed with this premise. And he issued a precedent setting ruling for men like Kosilek and “Sandy Jo” Battista. He issued the first court-ordered tax-payer funded surgical “sex change” for a prisoner in the United States. This precedent setting ruling, while lauded by transgender activists, represents a very unfair discriminatory outcome for females. Especially female prisoners.
“‘The idea that I might be a lesbian because I liked being with, being held by, and kissed and cared for by other girls never even came into my conscious mind until I was 57 years old.’ – Robert Kosilek”
March 20, 2014
Donna Perry Today
Photo credit: Nina Culver
Serial Killer suspect Douglas “Donna” Perry is back in Spokane after completing his Federal sentence on weapons charges. Perry faces triple murder charges for the slayings of Yolanda Sapp, Kathleen Brisbois and Nickie Lowe in 1990. He is still under investigation for other murders. According to court documents filed in January, a cellmate of Perry claimed he confessed to murdering a total of nine women who had been exploited by men into prostitution. He killed them because they had the ability to have children and were “wasting it being pond scum.”
I Am Not A Man- Goodbye Frank Spisak February 16, 2011
I AM NOT A MAN!
by Miss Frances Anne Spisak
“I am not a man! I reiterate: I am a girl and I want to be recognized as one!! The state of Ohio is FORCING me, against my will, to remain transsexual. Prison officials refuse to provide me with the medical treatment I need to become a woman! Ohio is withholding female hormornes from me, and denying me the surgery needed to correct my disorder. Ohio is forcing me to be masculine in appearance and gender. I am being deprived of autonomy and my rights as a United States citizen! I have first amendment rights to be a woman!….”
[Frank Spisak was a 59 year-old Neo-Nazi Serial Murderer who in 1982, over a period of six months, murdered three Black men in cold blood, shot another 7 times (who survived), tried to shoot a woman in the back after she fought off his assault and attempted rape in a women’s bathroom on a college campus, and tried to kill a man whom he thought to be Jewish.
B,B,But Trans Activists Say This NEVER Happens #86
November 2, 2011
Total fucking scumbag baby rapist Thomas Lee Benson claiming his “internal gender identity” made him dress up like a woman and plonk himself into a hot tub full of little girls in the women’s locker room, even though he is a designated predatory sex offender for raping elementary school girls, and forbidden to be near children. There’s a puke inducing extended interview with the babygirl rapist at the bottom of this link, if you have the stomach for it. http://www.katu.com/news/local/132679743.html
Try this link if you want to see Trans defending him in the comments. Even more puke inducing.
The rapist pedophile goes on in the interview about how he trolls Lesbian bars because he’s obsessed with having sex with women who don’t want to have sex with him. He wants to have sex with Lesbians who don’t know he is male. Guess he trolls elementary school girls for rape and switches it up with targeting some Lesbians.
CCWF: Stop male inmate Richard Masbruch from being housed in a Women’s Facility
July 20, 2012
Who is Richard Masbruch? Masbruch is a career criminal and serial torture-rapist who ties women up at gunpoint and splices together multiple electric cords which he then uses to torture, electrocute and shock his victims before raping and sodomizing them.
This week the family members of women being housed at the Central California Women’s Facility began an urgent campaign for the removal of male serial torture-rapist Richard Masbruch from the female population. Anna Silver of Los Angeles has started a petition upon hearing the news that Masbruch is about to be transferred to her mother’s unit.
From the petition:
Today as I answered my Mothers phone call she spoke to me and sounded slightly more upset than usual, normally she tells me she misses me. Today she told me that Richard Masbruch would be housed at CCWF. He would be the first male to be housed in a womens facility. Not only would he be housed there he would also be housed within her unit 514. Richard Masbruch is a Serial Rapist. During his time in Mens prison after his arrest he cut off his penis, claiming to be transgender. Due to inmates being unable to be interviewed what wasn’t revealed was that Masbruch is in fact still raping women within the facility, just now with foreign objects. He has also brutally injured some of the women within the facility. Please sign my petition against Richard being allowed in a women’s facility of any kind, so that he may return to a male penitentiary. It would not only help me and my mother but any woman in any facility. Thank you for your help and have a wonderful day.
From the Toronto Sun:Christopher Hambrook, who claimed to be a transgender woman named Jessica, is a serial rapist who sexually assaulted and terrorized women after being placed in Toronto area Women’s Shelters. He has attacked four females between the ages of five and 53 in Montreal and Toronto over the past 12 years.
(Dana McCallum considers himself a “male lesbian” and at least one media source has already run the headline “Lesbian Twitter Engineer Charged With Raping Wife”. McCallum has been an outspoken anti-woman activist, referring to feminists as “wackos”, and participating in the transgender “#Fuck Cis People” twitter campaign (“cis” is a transgender community slur for “biological females”).
From a German feminist: In Germany, M-F transgendered go to women prisons. There was a man who killed two women, and when sentenced, “discovered his female side.” He took hormones, and “transitioned,” which cost the tax payer 40.000 Euros, around $60000. He then almost killed a female CO, dragging her into his cell. He is still in a women’s prison. Then he stopped taking hormones, in order to “become a man again,” and is growing a beard. He is still in a women’s prison. The other female inmates are probably all transphobic, because they’re scared to death of him. And this is not the only case. Calling the fears and concerns from women “transphobic,” is a slap in the face. Thirty-seven years ago, when my best friend was thirteen, she was raped in a restaurant restroom. Why doesn’t her fear count? Not all men are rapists, but still they are not allowed to enter women’s toilets for a reason. We don’t know men’s intention since it’s unpredictable. In clubs where alcohol and drugs are used, it’s extremely frightening. I don’t know what’s going on with strangers that have male sexual organs, and I don’t want to sit beside them with my pants down. So please let us have our own space.
“Woman” arrested for bestiality ? News Media fictionalizes sex of crime suspect
April 26, 2014
I’ve said this before: when stories emerge in the media about women who live asfake mountain-climbing paraplegics or live as adult babies in diapers shoving marshmallows up their ass, or who are cited with multiple felony rape charges, or who are accused of multiple sadistic sexual serial murders, or in this case, are arrested for bestiality for fucking horses, there is an EXTREMELY good chance the perpetrator in question is actually a man, who is falsely reported as female on the grounds that said male is a transgenderist. News agencies and incompetent journalists like David Moye at the Huffington Post now falsely report male crimes and male perpetrators as female, if the male in question is a member of the genderist belief community. From the PhoenixNewTimes:
The ad on Craigslist, which is still active at the time of this post, was listed on April 8, and states:
I am 22 years old and I want to play with a male Horse. simple as that. If you have access to a Male horse, and can allow me access to a male horse, then contact me please 😉 I will do something in return.
Detectives were able to identify the poster as 22-year-old Donald Waelde, according to MCSO.
Another Craigslist visitor, who had a “genuine interest in horses,” contacted the MCSO out of disgust, according to the Sheriff’s Office.
According to an MCSO spokesman, “In the undercover investigation, Sheriff’s deputies contacted the suspect and engaged Waelde in conversation where the suspect stated the sex act he wished to perform on the horse and agreed to meet the undercover detective on Tuesday.”
The detective actually went to the meeting place in Anthem with a horse, borrowing one from the MCSO’s Mounted Posse.
Waelde was immediately arrested after showing up to the meeting place, and the Sheriff’s Office says he admitted to placing the ad and “stated his intentions to consummate the act.”
MCSO deputies also served a search warrant at Waelde’s Phoenix home.
Hey, this is what makes us women, and where is the clitoris?:
Crossdressing and Sex Prosthetics Approved for Transgender UK Prisoners
March 16, 2011
A 20 page guidebook on transgender prisoners was issued to wardens across the UK last week. As a result of the UK’s Gender Recognition Act the Ministry of Justice’s guidelines state “An establishment must permit prisoners who consider themselves transsexual and wish to begin gender reassignment to live permanently in their acquired gender.”
Unlike other prisoners who must wear prison uniforms, self-identified transgenders may wear their own clothes, and will be given access to prosthetics, devices, and gendered street clothes used to disguise their physical sex. Males who want to must be referred to as “miss” or “ma’am” and be called by a fake name of their choosing. These new guidelines apply to transgendered who have not been issued a “Gender Recognition Certificate” by the government but to those who remain legally regarded as their actual physical sex. Male murderers and rapists who wish to “become women” are already provided with state paid Gender Reassignment Surgery and then transferred to women’s prisons, regardless of concerns for those women’s safety.
In at least one case, a man in prison for kidnapping and attempted murder of a woman received a taxpayer funded sex change, transferred to a woman’s prison, then after a few years demanded a reverse-sex-change back to male, also taxpayer funded.
A senior citizen confronted with a “trans woman” in a Toronto YMCA women’s locker room who forced her to view his erect penis, and asked her “do you come here often?”- was recently told by authorities that males have an “absolute” legal right to placement in public areas traditionally sex-segregated for female safety, under new legal “Gender Identity” statutes, which override former sex-based protections for women and girls.
The elimination of women-only services and spaces where women are particularly vulnerable, such as homeless shelters, prisons, hospital bed assignment, areas of public nudity (such as locker rooms), is the primary goal of the transgender political rights movement. Also included are women’s sports, women’s colleges, women’s conferences, private women-only music festivals, lesbian events, etc.
Men posing as women in a women’s restroom to video and ridicule a lone woman while one of the men exposes himself to her. Notice how hard she tries to humor them –
Transjacktivists claim that arrest statistics for peeping and perving don’t show a sharp increase in states where men are allowed in women’s spaces. Well of course they don’t!… Making a formerly illegal behavior LEGAL seldom results in more arrests for (now legal) behavior.
The truth is guys do this…all the time. And they’ll do whatever it takes to perv on females. Here are some of the things they’ll do to get into female spaces:
- Hide cameras and microphones in female spaces.
- Crawl through ventilation ducts to view female spaces.
- Install double mirrors to view female spaces.
- Drill holes in walls to peep women’s spaces.
- Place cameras in shopping bags next to females wearing skirts.
- Risking arrest –and repeat arrest- sneaking into women’s restrooms.
- Dress up as and try to pass as female.
- Claim they are female.
- Try to pass laws permitting men who claim they are female to legally enter spaces where females do not want men.
- Try to pass laws that state that females don’t actually exist.
- Force law enforcement and media outlets to report male crimes against women as woman-on-woman crime, if the male is diagnosed with GID.
Let’s face it, males commit violent and sexual crimes against women. Statistically, it is indisputable. And criminal actions by and arrests of men don’t decrease after SRS (sexual reassignment surgery). In fact post SRS males have higher rates of criminality than the general public. There are voluminous incidents of transgender male violence against women. Murders, rapes, assaults. There are infantesimal reports of crimes against male transgenders committed by female perpetrators. Statistically minute. What does that tell us? It tells us that females should have the right to sex-segregated areas in places where they are especially vulnerable to male crimes against women….
The only “bathroom incidents” involving male transgenders are related to males entering female-designated spaces.
Americans are protected by Title VII against sex discrimination: discrimination against folks who don’t conform to sex role stereotypes. So males who are discriminated against while using male facilities can sue, the same way females can sue for sex discrimination. So where are the cases? Out of millions of transgender people there must be at least a handful of cases of males who have been discriminated against by being prevented from using male facilities because they looked female? No. There are none.
Where is the evidence that there is a statistically significant problem of crossdressed men/transsexual males/other transgender males suffering predation in male restrooms/male spaces? It doesn’t exist.
There is no demonstrable need for male-bodied people to use female facilities, regardless of how well they conform – or not– to gendered sex-roles.
Rape by men claiming to be women can be deadly in more ways than one….
“Transgender women were 49 times more likely to have HIV compared to a reference population, according to a new study on transgender women and HIV”.
Transgender Rights: The Elimination of the Human Rights of Women
July 11, 2013
Removing the legal right of women to organize politically against sex-based oppression by males
Removing the legal right of women to assemble outside the presence of men
Removing the legal right of women to educational programs created for women outside the presence of men
Eliminating data collection of sex-based inequalities in areas where females are underrepresented
Elimination of sex-based crime statistics
Eliminating athletic programs and sports competition for women and girls
Removing the legal right of women to be free from the presence of men in areas of public accommodation where nudity occurs
Elimination of grants, scholarships, board and trustee designations, representative positions, and affirmative programs for women
Removing the legal right of women to create reproductive clinics, rape crisis services, support groups, or any organizations for females
Eliminating media and all public discourse specific to females
Removal of the right of journalists to report the sex, and history, of subjects
Eliminating the legal right of lesbians to congregate publicly
Elimination of lesbian-specific organizations and advocacy groups
Removing the legal right of women to free speech related to sex roles and gender
Elimination of the legal right of women to protection from state-enforced sex-roles (appearance/behavior/thought)
Elimination of the legal right of girls to protection from state-enforced sex-roles in public education
Elimination of the patient right of dependent females to hospital/facility bed assignments separate from males
Elimination of the right of dependent females to prefer female providers for their intimate personal care requirements
Elimination of the human right of female prisoners under state confinement to be housed separately from male prisoners
Unlike any other “social justice” venture in history, Transgender Rights are unique in that they are completely based on eliminating the human rights of women. Transgender Rights are the “right” to eliminate the human rights of women. But how can such a relatively small group eliminate the legal human rights of half of the human race? Because the transgender politic is an anti-female politic, and as such receives blanket support from all male sectors who profit from the elimination of human rights for females: the state, the conservative politic, the liberal politic, the gay politic, the “queer” politic, academia, business, commerce, media.
This Is What Privilege Looks Like June 23, 2011
Male? Check. White? Check. Upper class? Check? Hetero? Check.
Howard is a business development consultant from Phoenix Arizona who flies frequently via US Airways as a high mileage executive preferred customer. For years now he has been entertaining himself by traveling in his tiny underwear and high heels and various sexualized female gender coded crossdresser ensembles. There are whole websites devoted to collecting photos of him in various airports over the years, and many a YouTubes. He has been accorded the nickname “Terminal” by afficianados and is regarded as something of a folk hero.
Well Howard is getting his 15 minutes of fame this week after someone linked Howard’s behavior to the incident of College football player Deshon Marman getting into legal trouble over refusing to pull up his pants that were hanging off his ass and his ejection from a US Airways flight. “Look at the carte blanche the white guy has to run around in sexay underwear while a black guy gets kicked off a plane for having his ass hang out of his pants” is the refrain. “Look at the privilege”….
…Can you imagine the treatment a woman would receive wearing these travel clothes? What about a 65 year old female executive with a droopy flabby gut? Would she be a preferred customer? What about a poor woman? A Black woman? They would all be frikkin treated like dirt- at the very least. More likely they would be intercepted by law enforcement. Or beaten or raped. Or given a psychiatric evaluation. And would the media withhold their name which is plastered all over the internet at their request? Hell’s to the No.
This is what Privilege LOOKS LIKE. “Terminal” Privilege. I just thought you might want to have a look….
It is possible to de-transition:
88% of the transgender population, those people who are protected by gender identity and gender expression laws, are, as reported by their own advocacy organizations, males with a psychosexual disorder. (1)
Many men with psychosexual disorders practice their fetish in the privacy of their own homes. But as many as 13,946,348 of them in the US, at the time of this writing, will be free to practice their fetish in public, in front of your children, in women’s locker rooms, in the girls bathroom at school. (2) This will be enabled by current and pending transgender legislation throughout the US. (3)
Transgender fetish is the largest sexual disorder reported in convicted sex offenders.(4) Almost 100% of convicted sex offenders have a documented history of transvestism, crossdressing, free-dressing, Autogynephilia, transsexualism – in other words: TRANSGENDER.
60% of convicted sex offenders have transgender fetish as their primary paraphillia (a parapillia is a psychological sex disorder). Of the remaining fetishists, such as pedophiles, rapists, etc., 60% of those sex offenders have transgender fetish as their secondary parapillia, in addition to their primary disorder. Finally, 40% of convicted sex offenders have transgender fetish as their tertiary (3rd) fetish among multiple disorders.
Transgender sex disorders are the leading indicator of criminal sexual behavior.
This is what transgender does:
rape and kill 6 year old girls http://maleviolence.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/alanna-gallagher-was-smothered-with-plastic-bags-and-had-her-watch-stolen-by-neighbor-17-who-raped-and-killed-her-mail-online.pdf
are sexual predators http://nametheproblem.com/2013/10/06/levandus-gacutan/ andhttp://maleviolence.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/man-dressed-as-woman-charged-with-sexually-assaulting-of-boy-nbc-10-philadelphia.pdf
TW rape women http://www.cable-manufacturer.net/disnews.aspx?id=239
TW are rapists http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-chat/1561244/posts
assault and sodomize women http://deadspin.com/5913641/the-comeback-pig-marv-albert-and-how-to-survive-any-sex-scandal
TW expose themselves at parks http://southwestminneapolis.patch.com/groups/editors-picks/p/naked-man-in-high-heels-flees-police-near-minnehaha-creek
TW assault teenagers http://www.smh.com.au/nsw/hunt-for-the-man-in-the-black-bikini-20120217-1tcqh.html
TW parade through office buildingshttp://www.foxnews.com/printer_friendly_wires/2007Apr26/0,4675,NothingButHeels,00.html
TW steal from their families http://www.newson6.com/global/story.asp?s=13211762
TW attack their mothers with baseball bats http://www.ktsm.com/local/man-arrested-after-beating-mother-with-bat-while-dressed-as-woman
TW expose them selves in publichttp://www.houmatoday.com/article/20080417/ARTICLES01/804170332 andhttp://www.wafb.com/Global/story.asp?S=7319410
TW expose themselves in residential neighborhoods http://www.wafb.com/Global/story.asp?S=7319410
TW expose themselves at the post office http://www.thelibertymonitor.com/2012/11/man-wearing-only-see-though-lingerie.html
rob women of their shoes http://us.topnewstoday.org/us/article/4856529/
TW masturbate in public libraries http://www.11points.com/News-Politics/11_Greatest_Mug_Shots_of_the_2000s
TW solicit lewd acts from children http://news.asiantown.net/r/4886/man-posing-as-woman-solicits-child-to-commit-a-lewd-act
TW expose and touch themselves in public http://www.thaindian.com/newsportal/world-news/cross-dressing-policeman-in-oz-caught-in-an-offensive-act-by-officers_100490082.html
TW grope and grab teenaged girls http://news.smh.com.au/breaking-news-national/act-police-seek-crossdressing-flasher-20110325-1c9rt.html
TW masturbate in the park https://www.claremont-courier.com/articles/police/t3211-blotter
TW sue to wear panties in prison http://newsok.com/keep-it-briefs-court-tells-inmate/article/2543537
TW expose themselves in parking lotshttp://www.postandcourier.com/article/20090924/ARCHIVES/309249882
TW expose themselves at gas stations http://www.chesterfieldobserver.com/news/2006-12-13/Crime_Watch
TW expose themselves to drivers from the road side http://clintontwp.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/leopard-print-wearing-clinton-township-man-arrested-fc8754a17c6
TW find sexual pleasure in the park http://blog.seattlepi.com/seattle911/2008/09/29/man-charged-in-green-lake-flashings/
TW masturbate in front of children http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=784_1273701504
TW flash women at train stations http://www.portsmouth.co.uk/news/local/flasher-wearing-women-s-tights-could-be-jailed-1-1296754
TW perform lewd acts in car parks http://www.walesonline.co.uk/news/local-news/tights-camera-action—mans-2396874
TW expose themselves to dog walkers http://www.redditchadvertiser.co.uk/news/local/8713096.print/
TW attempt to kidnap children for sex http://www.thisisplymouth.co.uk/Man-42-guilty-having-child-porn/story-12674678-detail/story.html#axzz2d4s5yzfu
TW flash women at grocery store http://newsok.com/flasher-suspect-admits-wearing-womans-garter-belt/article/2388413
TW force female validation http://www.pressherald.com/archive/sheriff-cross-dressing-driver-unsettling_2008-02-07.html
TW expose themselves to construction workers http://azstarnet.com/news/local/northwest/police-reports/article_74c490bb-faa8-561c-82b4-85885606920e.html
TW piss on neighbors porch http://www.topix.net/forum/city/st-cloud-fl/TPFDLQ9DC1S8A2EFI
TW stroll the neighborhood in panties http://lakewood-oh.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/blotter-man-wearing-women-s-underwear-guns-impound-an45d0dc380c
TW steal and wear neighbors clothing http://www.24tanzania.com/wanted-man-nabbed-wearing-stolen-knickers/
TW Stand outside in women’s underwearhttp://www.cleveland.com/lakewood/index.ssf/2012/07/man_seen_standing_outside_wear.html
TW Break into neighbors home http://portwashington-wi.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/saukville-woman-s-neighbor-proves-to-be-a-real-drag
TW Peep and video couples, return to steal her clothes http://www.dailycamera.com/ci_13107916
TW Get high and vandalize women’s bathroomshttp://www.deseretnews.com/article/640193236/Police-arrest-man-in-womens-clothes.html?pg=all
TW dress in women’s lingerie and rob peoplehttp://www.nola.com/crime/index.ssf/2013/02/man_suspected_of_donning_women.html
TW wearing black bras flash young women http://www.bringmethenews.com/2013/02/28/bra-sh-flash-police-seek-man-wearing-nothing-but-brassiere2/
TW expose themselves to other men http://crimeblog.dallasnews.com/2009/02/you-are-sexy-says-man-wearing.html/
TW expose themselves while riding scooters http://en.rocketnews24.com/2013/08/18/the-curious-case-of-the-osaka-pink-bra-snatcher/
TW enter women’s restrooms and locker rooms for sexual gratificationhttp://www.skyvalleychronicle.com/BREAKING-NEWS/MAN-WEARING-BRA-AND-WIG-ARRESTED-IN-WOMEN-S-RESTROOM-AT-LOCAL-COLLEGE-941018
TW filed under “Open and Gross” in police call logshttp://www.wickedlocal.com/brockton/topstories/x1222860426/Man-in-bra-startles-Brockton-neighbor
TW smuggle drugs in their bra and panties http://www.news24.com/SouthAfrica/News/Cocaine-found-in-mans-bra-panties-20110712
TW attack their ex-wives with a meat cleaver http://www.accessmylibrary.com/coms2/summary_0286-22114485_ITM
TW murder women http://m.kitv.com/news/newlyreleased-video-of-person-police-believe-murdered-a-local-woman/-/17421002/21174924/-/ik1jvu/-/index.html and http://m.kitv.com/news/people-say-accused-killer-of-mary-beth-san-juan-struggled-financially/-/17421002/21323788/-/kkx2sx/-/index.html
TW attack and stab women http://www.winknews.com/mobile/index.php/mobile/article/2013-02-25_911-call-after-woman-stabbed-in-her-sleep andhttp://www.winknews.com/mobile/index.php/mobile/article/2013-01-02_EXCLUSIVE-Stabbing-victim-takes-WINK-inside-her-home
TW steal clothes from Sorority House http://m.koco.com/Cross-Dressing-Suspect-Tied-To-Sorority-House-Burglary/-/17423288/12745784/-/txhj23z/-/index.html
TW assault security guards and steal designer dresseshttp://touch.washingtoncitypaper.com/wcp/#!/entry/crossdressing-thief-commits-perfect-crime,51df3e57da27f5d9d0f68f30
TW threaten with knives http://www.geelongadvertiser.com.au/article/2012/08/27/346481_news.html
have a fetish for women’s undergarments http://articles.mcall.com/2012-12-17/news/mc-elderly-women-rapes-20121217_1_john-anthony-vega-slatington-area-man-north-whitehall-home
T. break-in to homes in the middle of the night http://articles.chicagobreakingnews.com/2011-05-19/news/29562422_1_underwear-lee-avenue-police
have erections with their coffee http://www.spokesman.com/stories/2012/may/07/cross-dressing-sheriffs-chaplain-claimed-he-lost-b/
T. suffer a phenomenal 19 rapes in just 10 years http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2129997/Transsexual-makes-19th-rape-claim-10-years-costing-taxpayer-200-000-police-investigation-costs.html
T. break-in to neighbors house, bring drugs and porn, borrow pantieshttp://www.dreamindemon.com/2012/03/17/man-watching-porn-neighbors-home-wearing-underwear/
alarm customers and create a scene at local Pizza Hut http://www.fox19.com/story/15064873/man-kicked-out-of-pizza-hut-in-wallace-for-wearing-a-dress
T half-naked take young daughters on drugged joyridehttp://www.komonews.com/news/crime/Charges-Half-naked-man-was-high-on-meth-while-driving-with-daughters-212364221.html
T assault women and steal underwear http://www.aboms.com/archives/004628.html
TW love being seen in public http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=U-eUgmtTn6Y
in booty shorts http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JDRD9cfF38E
T. Impersonate police officers http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2012/04/police-crossdressing-robber-impersonating-cop.html
TW Sexually molest teenaged boys http://www.kget.com/mostpopular/story/Transgender-accused-of-three-Bakersfield/Atl1nctBSk28KmmtwFOxFQ.cspx
TW creep around rape victims back yard http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/queensland/crossdressing-teen-charged-with-trespass-20100531-wqfq.html
TW confess to killing little girls http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/john-mark-karr-man-claimed-kill-jonbenet-ramsey-resurfaces-time-woman-article-1.180468 andhttp://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexis_Reich
TW advertise child pornography on Craiglist http://www.kptv.com/story/23284427/craigslist-post-leads-to-child-pornography-arrest
rob in taxis at knife point http://www.chicagojournal.com/News/08-08-2012/A_crossdresser,_a_cab_and_a_knife
TW dig tunnels and watch child pornographyhttp://blogs.phoenixnewtimes.com/valleyfever/2010/07/tunnel-digging_kiddy-porn_susp.php
TW steal cars and whore http://www.dreamindemon.com/2011/06/07/crossdressing-car-thieves-arrested-after-crashing-suv/
TW host circle jerk block parties http://www.dreamindemon.com/2011/10/16/police-panty-wearing-masturbator-called-out-for-neighbors-to-join-him/
TW hang out in your garage wearing your pantieshttp://www.dreamindemon.com/2009/08/13/randall-giesbers-is-a-dirty-perv/
TW torture their girlfriends http://www.bakersfieldnow.com/news/local/-dressed-as-a-woman-looking-for-sex-177420741.html
TW Are convicted pedophiles http://www.calgarysun.com/2012/08/25/name-change-for-convicted-pedophile
T. Threaten to kill state legislators http://www.insidesocal.com/sgvgov/2008/10/25/david-dreier-a-stalker-and-wom/
participate in office sex scandals http://www.news-journalonline.com/article/20130628/NEWS/130629764
steal from laundry rooms http://denver.cbslocal.com/2013/08/22/alleged-underwear-thief-told-police-his-habit-started-early/
viciously attack their lovers http://www.channelnewsasia.com/news/singapore/transexual-pleads-guilty/831130.html
T. force young boys into prostitution http://nametheproblem.com/2013/10/01/andrea-chichi/
get breast implants and go topless to support equal rightshttp://www.telegram.com/article/20130914/NEWS/309149953/1116?app=noRedirect
Solicit sex from boys http://maleviolence.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/police-arrest-suspect-49-they-say-solicited-juvenile-for-sex-_-visalia-times-delta-and-tulare-advance-register-_-visaliatimesdelta.pdf
dress to drown http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/82593/Crossdresser-killed-by-skirt he was a very large man in a very small skirt
drive drunk and indecently expose themselves at the park with their familyhttp://www.realitytvworld.com/news/crossdressing-firefighter-busted-in-bikini-1012031.php
harass women http://nametheproblem.com/2013/10/14/abuzar-chaudhary/ andhttp://gendertrender.wordpress.com/2013/10/13/this-is-the-transwoman-who-organized-a-public-protest-across-the-street-from-a-small-group-of-radical-feminists-meeting-in-a-private-home/
From THIS is Transgender (posted 2013/8/23):
use women’s locker rooms http://www.katu.com/news/local/132679743.html prior sex offender conviction
chase teenaged girls and expose themselves http://www.leicestermercury.co.uk/Hunt-flasher-stockings/story-19217295-detail/story.html
sneak into women’s locker rooms http://archive.dailycal.org/article.php?id=110753
make indecent remarks to women in publichttp://www.thewestmorlandgazette.co.uk/news/8705749.print/
visit strip clubs and solicit prostitutes https://www.prisonlegalnews.org/displayArticle.aspx?articleid=21570&AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
expose themselves to teenaged girls http://www.burnleyexpress.net/news/mans-indecent-exposure-left-girl-17-distraught-1-1691611
Sunbathe at public beach in frilly knickers http://news.stv.tv/west-central/275564-man-wearing-nothing-but-frilly-knickers-at-sex-meeting-spot-claimed-he-was-sunbathing/
expose themselves to runners at the park http://northcote-leader.whereilive.com.au/news/story/pantyhose-wearing-man-wanted-after-indecent-exposure-in-northcote/
go jogging in women’s underwear http://www.ripleyandheanornews.co.uk/news/local/ripley-man-in-court-on-flashing-charges-1-5495839
wear their daughters’ panties http://www.ayradvertiser.com/news/troon/articles/2011/05/28/413587-i-am-wearing-my-daughters-panties/?mode=print
attack bike messengers http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2013-08-12/news/chi-5-arrested-2-in-womens-clothing-after-trying-to-steal-bike-on-blue-line-20130812_1_messenger-blue-line-police-officer“aggressive and dangerous”
TW Have sex in the park http://www.wtsp.com/news/local/story.aspx?storyid=280847
TW Stalk children, send sexually explicit images and textshttp://www.thv11.com/news/article/276769/2/Police-arrest-cross-dresser-who-was-waiting-on-meeting-with-14-year-old
TW expose themselves at Wally World http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=y5ea03zwabk&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dy5ea03zwabk
TW http://m.wpbf.com/Police-Man-in-women-s-clothes-leads-officers-on-chase/-/17441378/18035772/-/8u7u1o/-/index.html and http://www.tcpalm.com/news/2013/jan/07/riviera-beach-police-chase-vehicle-martin-county-c/
TW enjoy being frisked by TSA at airports http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=091_1372962838&comments=1&safe_mode=off
TW molest children at knifepoint http://www.kget.com/mostpopular/story/Transgender-accused-of-three-Bakersfield/Atl1nctBSk28KmmtwFOxFQ.cspx
TW expose themselves to teenagers at the mall http://www.thesunchronicle.com/news/man-wearing-dress-arrested-at-north-mall/article_4676e136-457e-5054-9827-a1d63948ee28.html
TW commit lewd acts on children under their supervisionhttp://blogs.ocweekly.com/navelgazing/2013/07/christian_school_daycare_sex_c.php
TW Steal and wear children’s underwear http://www.ktvb.com/news/local/64234627.html?unconfirmed=1
TW commit lewd acts in stolen knickers http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2603678/Town-Mayor-is-quizzed-by-cops-in-missing-underwear-probe.html
TW masturbate in department store bathrooms http://www.wave3.com/story/22939874/man-accused-of-performing-lewd-act-in-public-stealing-bikes
TW break-in and commit lewd acts http://www.mercurynews.com/ci_11545514?source=rss
TW Molest children http://www.courts.ca.gov/opinions/nonpub/B235608.DOC
TW sexually accost strangers http://m.salemnews.com/TSN/pm_104190/contentdetail.htm?contentguid=sPNcsThr
TW expose themselves in public http://5newsonline.com/2013/08/06/man-arrested-wearing-bra-thong-at-fayettevlle-park/
TW Transgender on-off switch
From They are Out There (posted 2013/7/9):
TW http://www.wsav.com/story/22285232/cross (warning: child pornography)
TW http://m.wesh.com/Man-accused-of-trying-to-rape-woman-admits-he-s-a-cross-dresser/-/15560346/16480216/-/kxhp89/-/index.html and http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=QB1PV2imEPE&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DQB1PV2imEPE
TW http://www.anorak.co.uk/333936/strange-but-true/cross-dresser-who-raped-neighbours-pet-goat-to-death-escapes-prison.html/ Note that he wears “just panties”.
TW http://www.thesmokinggun.com/buster/public-indecency/sundress-arrest-896032 (Note his 2nd Arrest)
TW http://www.naplesnews.com/news/2009/dec/30/deputies-arrest-immokalee-cross-dresser-sex-assaul/ (warning: 4 yr old child victim)
TW trans activist hides sexual fetish of above http://www.bilerico.com/2009/09/wthr-13_vs_wrtv-6_a_tale_of_two_news_sta.php
TW http://dailyridge.com/headlines-now/2012/01/17/lake-wales-man-arrested-for-burglary-while-in-a-dress/ (wearing a “maid’s dress” with genitals showing)
TW http://lubbockonline.com/stories/072209/cri_467394963.shtml (warning: indecency with a child)
TW http://detroit.cbslocal.com/2013/05/16/thumb-drive-found-in-park-leads-to-arrest-in-child-porn-case/ (warning: child torture)
Remember that most of these women who identify as “transmen” are Fem and many are het or bisexual, and also identify as gay men and want access to gay men.
“Boxers rock. Guy’s clothes is comfy and cheap. Being ignored more easily. My friends’ parents no longer question my friendships with their sons. That feeling of being a guy. Being treated like one of the guys. More body strength. Men’s underwear ROCKS! Men’s clothes are cheaper and better quality. Not expected to look pretty. Not expected to have babies. Not expected to go gaga over other people’s babies. Boxer briefs are sooo comfy. Muscle mass increase. Not having to shave. BOXERS. I love them. I’ve never, ever worn briefs, haha. Not having to shave. Not being expected to show emotion all the time by the inflection of my voice. My ma never liked it when she couldn’t tell exactly how I felt about something. Now she has realized that it is the words I use that matter. Men’s underwear. I used to assume that it was impossible to design comfortable underwear, and that everyone put up with it. Then I started wearing briefs. Not being expected to care about other people’s babies and young kids. Men’s clothing is more comfortable, and often cheaper and more functional. Not being expected to be able to relate to other girls as a girl/ not being expected to understand the nuances of what’s happening in a social situation/ being ignored more. Feeling safer when I’m by myself at night. Being treated as one of the guys. Feeling normal. Clothes, girl’s clothes are tight and uncomfortable and too flashy, guy’s clothes are comfortable, simple, and convenient. Less head hair (unless u have long hair for a guy) it’s just simpler, plus more fun to style. Bathrooms, guys don’t go in there to put on makeup and giggle, they go in there to shit and piss, I love it, I always felt weird trying to do my business in the girls room, cause it seemed I was the only one in there using it for what it is, a bathroom. No makeup, most girls are expected to wear makeup, sure guy liner is cool sometimes, but I’m so glad I’m not expected to wear it. I don’t have to look good- I can just roll out of bed and go to class, no one cares if I look grungy. No periods/pms (for guys on t). Don’t have to shave your body. Boxers, I had been wearing men’s underwear before I even knew I was trans, panties are uncomfortable and too thin! Higher pay, they say men get more money.. cha ching. More respect. Getting treated as one of the guys by other guys, there seems to be a silent code of respect between guys (for the most part) Being stronger, not being seen as weak, being expected to pull your weight, and not treated like a wimpy girl. Feeling safer when I’m by myself at night-agree. Being called bud, bro or man by peers. Being called son (I love that term of affection. You never hear anyone say “daughter” as a term of affection). I completely agree with the men’s underwear, although I find briefs the most comfortable. Not being given a hard time about not wearing makeup. Not being assumed to be weak or vulnerable. More comfortable clothing. Boxers. Just being ignored instead of looked at like a weird butch chick. Not being stared at weird for acting immature. Feeling normal. Feeling safer when I’m by myself at night. Being treated as one of the guys. Oh and being called boss by a guy the other day. Being more comfortable. Lack of femininity isn’t questioned. Number 1: Straight chicks checking me out. Being my girlfriend’s man. Being one of the guys, without them having to add “without the dick”. Being chivalrous; men have always held doors for me. Not that I don’t appreciate the consideration, but I’m a door-holder, not taker. Now I get to let the ladies and older persons go ahead of me, or hold a door open, and put a smile on their face. Wearing clothes that suit my personality without people glaring at me or shifting uncomfortably when they see a bug dyke [sic] walking their way. Boxers and boxer-briefs. The drive to work out, the desire to have muscles, the lack of shame about having a more muscular body than most other women because, well, I no longer consider myself a woman. I’m a man, I’m strong, I’m proud, and lifting those weights makes me feel even better about my body. Not feeling like I’m putting on a show. If anyone’s seen Chicago, I used to always think of my interactions with people as starting with “And now, Ladies and Gentlemen, a tap dance.” Having my woman feel safe in my arms, protected. Looking forward to watching my wife walk down to aisle to me. Feeling proud when my gf ask me to help fix something around the house. Smirking when my gf needs me to open a jar.”
[From a popular online forum for “Female-to-Male Transsexuals”]
These men get it, so why can’t women? from the Little Britain television series: