About

About Bev Jo and this blog:

I began this blog as a way to update our entire book, Dykes-Loving-Dykes: Dyke Separatist Politics for Lesbians Only online. Our book was published in Jan. 1990, so this is the 25 year update, completed in Jan. 2015.

I also began writing new articles, which, theoretically, if the money and time were available, would become second and third books. But for now, those articles are here and I will keep adding to them, as well as updating some of them.

I began a second blog with newer and theoretically shorter articles, but there’s so much to say!

https://keepingreallesbianfeminismsimple.wordpress.com/

The masthead is a photo I took of the Puya Berteroana from South America —

Bio:  I’ve been a Lesbian from my earliest memories and am proud to be a Lesbian. Lesbians are my people and my blood. My life’s work has defending Lesbians and our culture and existence against those who oppress us. I’m working-class, ex-catholic, mostly European-descent (with some Native American ancestry), from the poverty class culture of my family.

I’m a Lifelong Lesbian, born near Cincinnati, Ohio in 1950. I became lovers with my first lover in 1968, became part of a Lesbian community in 1970, and became a Dyke Separatist in 1972. I helped create Radical Lesbian Feminist and Separatist community and worked on some of the earliest Lesbian Feminist projects, such as the Lesbian Feminist Conference in Berkeley in 1972 (one of the first in the world), the newspaper “Dykes and Gorgons” in 1973, the women’s bookstore and Lesbian coffeehouse, and taught self defense to women and girls. I’ve been published in journals and anthologies, including “For Lesbians Only,” “Finding the Lesbians,” “Lesbian Friendships,” “Amazones d’Hier, Lesbiennes Aujourd’hui,” “Mehr als das Herz Gebrochen,” the Journal for Lesbian Studies, Lesbian Ethics, Sinister Wisdom, Trivia, and Rain and Thunder.

With Linda Strega and Ruston, I co-wrote our book, “Dykes-Loving-Dykes: Dyke Separatist Politics for Lesbians Only” in 1990. I’ve been disabled since 1981 with ME/CFIDS (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis or Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome) or perhaps Lyme disease (who the hell knows) and MCS (Multiple Chemical Sensitivity.) I love nature and plants and animals — and especially the animals who are feared and hated and killed by people who don’t even know them, just as Lesbians are. I’ve learned to love rats especially, who I do not consider inferior to humans. I’m a spiritual atheist, but I’ve found out that there is definitely life after death because a little rat returned from the dead for three days to comfort us. These hated little animals are so kind and loving, and willing to die for someone they love. In our fight to protect the earth, distrust all “truths” we are taught by patriarchy, including by the “experts.” The true truth is often the opposite.

26 Responses to About

  1. Nicky says:

    You need to see this, because their is a Transgender who is pretending to be intersex and I am challenging their claims of intersex http://schreibtzane.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/intersex-sex-and-gender/

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  2. Bev Jo says:

    I tried to answer there, with this (below), but doubt they’ll print me. You did so well in answering all that crap. I keep seeing the same thing. I don’t know your class background, but I’m working class, and I keep seeing classism being used to shut us up or try to put us down — our politics called “absurd,” being told we need to read more. Typos are nothing. You wrote directly, clearly, and brilliantly, and Zane and his supporters really do not know how to answer you. You must be right because a real intersex person would understand, bond with you, share info, and also be outraged at the appropriation of your identity.

    Have you written elsewhere, to get support?

    This is what I tried to post at that blog:

    Nicky is not being “rude” or “policing.” Rude is the patronizing way that Nicky has been talked down to. It’s also classist.

    Nicky has good reason to question Zane because intersex identity is being regularly appropriated by men similarly to how men are appropriating women’s and Lesbian identity. Nicky’s “issue” is being oppressed for being an intersex person and by anyone appropriating intersex identity. I would think that if you were similarly intersex, you would not insult or try to drive Nicky off, but would ally and deeply understand why Nicky is questioning you.

    This is not just about disagreements. Nicky’s identity is regularly being appropriated, as is mine, as a Lesbian and female. Appropriating someone’s identity is stealing, but also is an attempt to define others out of existence.

    Nicky knows the extent to which this is happening and the harm it is doing. By responding as if Nicky just needs educating, you are ignoring the reality of this harm, and does make it look like Nicky is correct in assuming you are using the issue of intersex.

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    • Nicky says:

      Yeap and every time I challenge a transgender person on their claims of intersex, I get hit with being called a bigot or transphobic for challenging their claims. I think to them that they believe that anyone who challenges them is being a bigot and they think that people don’t have the right to challenge them. Even though they like to think that they have the right to challenge women and intersex people at will.

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  3. Bev Jo says:

    It is so unfair. It’s so typical of the lying and stealing and then turning it all around. They are the bigots for not caring about your life and oppression. I always say, “We’re not phobic — they oppress us!” It’s so insulting. Calling us phobic compares us to those who are afraid of Intersex people and Lesbians. That’s appropriating/stealing again from Feminists who invented that as an idea to describe men like them. It’s all about them and their narcissism.

    I really appreciate your courage and persistence, Nicky. No matter how much they lie, others will see. It’s obvious to anyone who cares.

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  4. Nicky says:

    It’s so unfair that they like to challenge women and intersex people at will and think that women and intersex people don’t have the right to challenge them. I challenged Zane on his so called intersex claim by asking simple questions that only an Intersex person would know and understand. It was very obvious that he wasn’t going to say or he was ducking the issue and instead calling me transphobic for challenging his claims. I knew he is an intersex imposter claiming to be intersex so he can get sympathy for why he’s trans. Zane thinks he can be both and think it’s possible to be both and tries to pass himself off as being both. Zane could not come up with one reason or the other but instead attacked me and bullied me. He even resorted to making a post to spew medical jargon to say why he’s a special snowflake.

    I wonder what would happen if feminist and lesbians found out about Zane and what Zane has done to an intersex person.

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  5. Bev Jo says:

    It would be good for everyone to know. Is there a more public place that you can post about this, like at Gallus’? You’re doing such important work because it is so clear that Zane and his friends had absolutely no way to counter or answer you other than calling you names that are ridiculous and falling back on “we’re whoever we say we are.”

    It doesn’t make sense, like you said, to claim to be both Intersex and transsexual. When they do, it’s a giveaway that they are men trying to con by claiming to be intersex. It’s as transparent as their extreme male-identified feminine look that screams “male!”

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    • Nicky says:

      Yeap and people like Zane need to be called out for lying and con people by pretending to be intersex and pretending to be both. That’s because if people like Zane can lie and con people about being trans and intersex at the same time. Then they are not too far off at trying their luck at women as well.

      It just proves that people like Zane are trying so hard to appropriate, steal and co-opt people’s identity and community. The fact that Zane got caught by an intersex person, just proves how bad they really are and how they are using their male privilege to steal other people’s identity.

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  6. Bev Jo says:

    I just saw you’re spreading the word at Gallus.’ It’s so important for sympathizers to see this lying and conning. I think it should be easier for them to see the appropriation of Intersex people, and hopefully care more than they do about women and Lesbians. At least in this case, there is medical fact, as opposed to their just saying what they “feel” like. I mean, wouldn’t we all like to be something other than what we are?

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    • Nicky says:

      The more, feminist know about these people, the better because that way, people like Zane would not be able to lie and con to people. When people are wise on to their games and know that they tried to lie and con their way into the intersex community and they will sooner or later try their luck on women and lesbian. People will figure out who people like Zane are all about.

      I think that people like Zane are co-opting and stealing people’s identity, just so they can get the same sympathies that Real Intersex people and Real women get. It just shows that people like Zane was stupid enough to try an lie and con their way pass an intersex person and couldn’t get pass an a Real Biological born intersex person, when confronted and challenged on their claims.

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  7. Bev Jo says:

    I really appreciate your confronting them with their lies. I already know one radical Lesbian Feminist who’s fallen for Zoe Brain’s lying about being Intersex. Every con and trick should be exposed.

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    • Nicky says:

      Every transsexual or transgender who lies about being intersex or lies about being a woman, should be exposed as a liar and a con artist. They should be shamed and even make every lesbian, intersex person and women know about these con artist and liars. I have been confronting every transsexual who likes to claim to be intersex and claim womanhood. It’s like they are stealing other people’s identity and community and people need to know what trans people are doing to women and intersex. I’ve been attacked, and called a bigot and transphobic, by trans people and their trans supporters and trans enablers. Just by challenging their claims and exposing their con and lies they spew to people.

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  8. Bev Jo says:

    Thanks for all the info!

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  9. Bev Jo says:

    There’s no reason to leave the Lesbian community because of some theatrical sado-masochists. Many of us have fought sado-masochism for years.

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  10. Jennie says:

    Hello Bev Jo!! Its Jennie, the woman who you have been writing to as an email pal! I forgot your email address. I have been looking everywhere for it, but I decided to contact you here. Please write soon to me, I miss you! I was reading your wonderful blog tonight, and can’t get enough! You are a brilliant writer, and I admire you very much. I’d love to get in touch with you again. Feel free to contact me anytime. The email I used for this message is real. I miss you! Keep kickin ass as only you can! Xoxo. Jennie

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  11. theradicallesbian says:

    Hello Bev Jo! I’m lesbian separatist. I agree and support your writings, and I would like to post chapters from your book in Russian, here on wordpress in my blog. Could I have your permission?

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  12. Mariana says:

    Hey Bev jo! I’m brazillian and I’d like to translate some of your posts and your book to portuguese, is that possible or already exist?
    and there’s an e-mail to talk to you about some questions of your posts?

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  13. All On Fire says:

    Hi Bev,

    I’m trying to write a book criticizing mainstream feminism and in it I defend lesbian feminism and separatism. One of the most important things is to point out how lesbian feminists and separatists exist all over the globe since people say they are only middle class white women. I was wondering if you knew how I could find works written by women outside of the U.S and U.K, or if you could help me get in touch with some lesbian feminists or separatists who wouldn’t mind answering a few questions.

    I don’t just want to make a point, but I really want to learn how women from cultures outside of these countries I know fairly well (U.S and U.K) came to these conclusions within their own countries or cultures. I want to write this for other women who might feel as though separatism isn’t something that women discover in all kinds of circumstances. Women who, like me, aren’t very active on the internet (hence the choice to write a book).

    This lesbian feminist from Japan had a website along time ago, this is actually the only website I could find from someone outside of the U.S, U.K. (Other than one of the authors of your book I have not seen anyone from Australia or New Zealand, and I have not seen anyone from Canada either–and English is the only language I speak at the moment.) https://web.archive.org/web/20040622090123/http://plaza28.mbn.or.jp/~dyke/mo/lesfemi_mo_shiro_eng.html

    If you can help thank you so much, if not that’s okay, I appreciate what you so much. I would like to reference you a lot in my book (very favorably) would that be okay?

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    • Bev Jo says:

      Thank you so much! Yes, definitely you can reference me.

      Your books sounds so important and necessary. I don’t have links that I can think of to Separatists elsewhere, but do have friends and contacts, including Brazil, Austria, Russia, Sweden, Germany, Aotearoa, Australia, Canada. I know there must be some more. I’ll contact you by email.

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  14. Bev Jo says:

    It is SO important to let all women know that Lesbian Separatism is not privileged politics. I have seen the lies for decades and they serve the men who want to keep their women in line and under their control, and they serve the women who don’t want to be questioned about their own privileges and alliances to men. They repeat the ridiculous myth that Separatists live on land, in the country, etc. I’ve probably been a Separatist longer than anyone I know and it’s a maddening lie that erases us.

    It’s Separatist politics that created and fueled all forms of feminism, including our women only spaces to be together, which are so crucial and which benefited even anti-Separatists.

    I think we have no idea what is going on among more oppressed Lesbians. Like how many know that there is an African-descent Lesbian-only organization in the SF Bay Area that has been having events for decades?

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