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The Lesbian Feminist idea that we all choose the most important decision of our lives is deeply threatening to our enemies, including het and gay men and the women aligned with men against us. Of course they want to destroy our history and our awareness of reality. Repeating the same lie over and over does not make it true. Talking about supposedly “compulsory heterosexuality” also erases those of us who always said no.
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Your writing sparked a thought for me, in regards to the conversation you had about “brain development”. I was raised middle class and understand what’s she’s getting at, but I think she’s viewing the issue incorrectly. I, too, had the experience of not being very self or other-aware when I was a child, but I think this is a part of being raised with class privilege, perhaps more so than a natural part of development.
Something I’ve noticed over the years is that people with more class privilege tend to have been raised to gaslight both themselves and others about reality – the richer you are, the less in touch with reality and your own feelings and perceptions you are. This functions to benefit rich men, because it allows them to hold onto and gain even more wealth, and to otherwise benefit from abusing others, all while gaslighting the victims about what is happening. Women within the same class don’t question these men’s actions because a lot of them don’t even SEE a lot of the actions, or see them as harmful (due to their class-sculpted worldview being completely reversed from reality).
I think many class privileged feminists are not even aware that they have a damaged ability to perceive outside reality as well as their own inner reality. I think this creates a lot of the conflict you talk about here.
Because to me, as a middle class woman, you sound like you were an unusually perceptive, confident, and self-aware girl, but that may just be because I was raised with middle class mind-fuckery that confused and mislead me for a long time (and still does).
Just my two cents.
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Thank you so much. That is so interesting and well said. It explains a lot! I keep seeing online the assumption that we all somehow agreed to obey middle class rules and then there is outrage when we refuse.
I was confused and oblivious a lot growing up, and being in catholic schools didn’t help (although being only with girls in high school was wonderful.) I wasn’t confident at all, mostly scared and traumatized, but I did learn early on that my mother was not to be trusted to have any common sense, and never saw a happy het relationship. If they all were so happy, why did they complain so much and obviously hate each other?
But one thing I was very sure about and nothing could stop me, which was that loving other girls was good and the best thing in my life.
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Thank you for writing what has recently been on my mind and heart. I particularly enjoyed how you addressed how bi-women and men (trans and het) want access to our bodies. In this regard, the cotton ceiling concept never really surprised me – it’s men demanding access to our bodies. These same tactics have been employed by bi-women and het men alike. And this is why I have an increasing appreciation of how women loving women is a real threat to patriarchy.
Bev Jo, Thank you for always supporting and defending our radical lesbian community.
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Thank you so much! I’ve gotten so much harassment over our old basic Lesbian Feminist politics so appreciate the support.
I realized that if any Lesbians objects to our past history with strong Lesbian-loving politics, they should explain why, and not have us have to defend what we know is true.
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Hi, thought you might want to add this to the list when alerting straight allies and other lesbians in denial of this form of conversion therapy of lesbian and gay youth in the U.S and other countries. And small percent would be straight too since they’re tra.nsing babies which should concern straight people.
‘It feels like conversion therapy for gay (and lesbian) children, say clinicians’
Ex-NHS staff fear that homophobia is driving a surge in ‘transgender’ young people
https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/it-feels-like-conversion-therapy-for-gay-children-say-clinicians-pvsckdvq2?shareToken=9d4c5951f00b609682979fca5b6a9d8e
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